Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Groups Urge Pope to Meet with LGBTI People; Steve Grand's "Gay" Swimwear; Colin Farrell Best Man At Brother's Gay Wedding

Groups Urge Pope to Meet with LGBTI People

This is always so hard for me, because I was raised Catholic, went to 12 years of Catholic school, and I know how the Church works with regard to things like this. It is what it is and logic has very little to do with it.

I also understand why these groups want to meet with the Pope.

Nearly 30 groups and individuals, led by GLAAD and DignityUSA, have sent a letter to the leader of the Catholic Church urging him to do so and explaining that there is ‘institutionalized discrimination against LGBT people and families.’

The letter explains that the church’s teachings and pastoral practices have resulted in ‘a compelling pastoral need’ for ‘great healing and reconciliation.’

The letter is signed by GLAAD’s President and CEO Sarah Kate Ellis and DignityUSA’s Executive Director Marianne Duddy-Burke. It is endorsed by 28 additional organizations and people and was mailed directly to Pope Francis earlier this month.

Even if they do meet with him I'm not sure much will change. Look at how the Catholic church views divorce and you'll see what I mean. Women still aren't allowed to become priests. Nuns are treated as second class citizens. And please don't comment about how they grant Papal annulments. I'm all too familiar with that as well. I even filled one out for a family member who paid thousands of dollars and waited almost four years to get a Papal annulment.

You can read the rest here.

I think it's wonderful these groups want to meet with the Pope. I just hate to see good people let down.

Steve Grand's "Gay" Swimwear

I didn't even know this had happened. Evidently, there were comments made about Steve Grand wearing "gay" swimwear.

‘I try not to pay too much attention. At some point in life it’s important to realize that no matter what you do, people are going to have something to say about it so you may as well do/wear what makes you happy.

‘I’ve seen a small number of gay men criticize my choice of swimwear for being immodest and ‘stereotypically gay.’

‘People are entitled to feel however they feel, but again, I wear what I wear for me and not for them; because it makes me feel good. I’m not looking for everyone’s approval all of the time.

‘There is a time and place for modesty, but, for me at least, a hot summer day in Chicago, on a boat with a bunch of other gay dudes is not one of them.

‘And frankly I don’t care what some may consider to be a gay stereotype or not, and anyone using that as some kind of jab is probably grappling with their own internalized homophobia. I wear what makes me happy.’

As usual, he replied like a gentleman and took the high road. There are very few fights worth fighting online unless you're willing to die for the cause.

The rest is here, with a photo of the swimwear they criticized. He looks good.

Colin Farrell Best Man At Brother's Gay Wedding

I've posted about Farrell and his openly gay brother, and this is only news for now. I hope that in five or ten years it won't be news anymore. Weddings will just be weddings, not gay weddings.

Colin Farrell will be be best man at his brother’s wedding next year once gay marriage legislation is passed.

The Hollywood actor also played best man at his older brother’s civil union ceremony in 2009, but said he regretted not coming back to Ireland to celebrate the gay marriage referendum, which was passed in May.

‘If I’m honest, selfishly I’m sick I wasn’t at home. It nearly took the joy out of it for me,’ he told the Irish Independent.

There's more here.    


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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Posting Photos of RL Friends on Facebook; Raven-Symone's Advice to Caitlyn Jenner; How Tom Cruise Helped Ian McKellen's Acting Career

Posting Photos of Friends on Facebook

I have a rule about all social media, not just facebook. If I'm going to post the photo of a real life friend...or anyone...I ask their permission first. I don't just do it without consent. It doesn't matter if it's a group standing in front of a restaurant or a small dinner party at home. I don't feel comfortable posting anyone's photo without getting permission. Why, you ask? Because your real life friends might value their privacy and not want their photo posted on your Timeline. Not everyone wants everyone to know what they are doing twenty-four hours a day. There are some people out there who prefer to hold on to whatever privacy they still have left.

I was curious about this and I wanted to know how other people think. Here's something interesting. 

Here is some good news, however. A study suggests that people who do this may be alienating themselves from those who might be called normal human beings. 

As CBS Washington reports, researchers from three British universities -- the University of Birmingham, University West of England, and the University of Edinburgh -- have concluded that frequent Facebook photo-posters "risk damaging real-life relationships."

Whatever you do, don't post photos of kids without consent from parents. Frankly, I would go berserk if I were a parent and someone posted my kid's photo on facebook or anywhere.

So when she spotted a friend of her ex-husband posting “literally hundreds of pictures” of her daughter, Elmuts said she expressed her displeasure and asked her to remove the photos. A confrontation ensued, after which the woman unfriended Elmuts on Facebook. 

Here's a page where there's a legal discussion about posting photos of friends on Facebook.  

If you do a simple search you'll find a lot more information out there. But for me the bottom line is short and sweet: just don't do it without asking for permission first. I had a family member once post images of me online at a family gathering and I didn't want those photos up. I asked her to take them down and she did. It wasn't an issue. But that was a family member. If you have to go to a real life friend and request that it could lead to a problem that could have been avoided.

Don't be that social guy who posts photos of everyone he ever knew in the universe without asking their permission first. And we all know someone who does this all the time in real life. I personally know one who has been posting photos of friends all week and I've been getting e-mails about it from more than half the people I know. They aren't too thrilled about it either.

Raven-Symone's Advice to Caitlyn Jenner

I've been reading more and more articles about how hugely ignored most transgender people are as compared to the privileged and elite transgender person that Caitlyn Jenner is. Some stories are downright painful to read when you see how some trans people suffer. I've seen other commentary about how many trans women don't really want Caitlyn being their spokesperson. I'm not knocking Caitlyn, and neither is anyone else. Her journey has brought the entire discussion out in the open and in many ways it paved the way for people like me writing blog posts about it. However, there are a few strong opinions out there about the way she's been doing it.

Raven-Symone said this:

‘When I came out, I didn’t go and go hardcore and be like, “I’m going to save the world for LGBT,”‘ The View co-host said on Monday’s episode of the talk show. 

‘You’ve got to learn it. You’ve got to learn it first, and she’s not, really.’

‘Beforehand, I was definitely repping the community, even when I wasn’t saying this is what I was. And I’m not faulting you because yes, we need you. It’s too fast, too soon.’


I found that here.

How Tom Cruise Helped Ian McKellen's Acting Career

Here's an interesting article about making the right career choices through gut instinct, but not knowing you're doing that at the time.

‘I got offered a part in Mission: Impossible II with Tom Cruise, but they wouldn’t let me see the whole script because I might have spilled the beans. I only got my scenes,’ McKellen tells People.com.

‘Well, I couldn’t judge from reading just those scenes what the script was like. So I said no. And my agent said, “You cant say no to working with Tom Cruise!” and I said, “I think I will.”‘
It’s a good thing he did.

‘The next day, Bryan Singer asked me to play Magneto and then Peter Jackson asked me to play Gandalf, and I said yes to both.’

And there you are. I hope I made a few of the right career choices this year, too, by finally turning a few things down that I wouldn't have turned down five years ago. Only time will tell. All I can say is that looking back in hindsight, there are a few things I should have turned down. Sometimes you have to learn the hard way.

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Monday, July 27, 2015

Scottish LGBTI Awards; Jindal Blocks Westboro; Angela Merkel's Christian Democrats; Review A Guy With Two Penises

Scottish LGBTI Awards

In case I never mentioned it, I link a lot to Gay Star News and I like the way they use LGBTI. The "I" means intersex. I welcome that addition and seriously praise it far more than that offensive "Q" word I see all the time.

In any event, for the first time ever there will be an awards event in Scotland for LGBTI people.

The very first Scottish LGBTI awards will take place on September 10, hosted by advocacy group Equality Network.

The awards will honour individuals and organizations who contributed to the progress and wellbeing of the LGBTI community over the last year.

This year is a historical one for progress in the country. In 1980 – 35 years ago – homosexuality was decriminalized in Scotland. It’s been 20 years since Scotland’s first Pride March.

Fifteen years have passed since Section 28, which raised the age of consent for gay people, was repealed.

You can read more here. In case you didn't know, the national animal of Scotland is the unicorn. I only know that because it's in my next book in The Rainbow Detective series, The Scottish Duke.

Jindal Blocks Westboro

The funerals for the victims of the Louisiana shootings will be held soon and Gov. Bobby Jindal had some interesting things to say to the Westboro Baptist Church.
 
Louisiana Governor Bobby Jindal is prepared to do everything in his power to block the Westboro Baptist Church from protesting the funerals of the victims in the last week’s Lafayette movie theater shooting.

According to The Hill, he issued an executive order yesterday (25 July).

‘In times of grief and mourning, the rule of law is especially important to protect the rights of citizens when they are most vulnerable, and any effort to disrupt or interfere with a family’s ability to grieve following the loss of a loved one is a reprehensible act,’ the Republican wrote, according to The Hill.

‘Any action by any individual or group to in any way disrupt, interfere, or cause additional suffering during this time of mourning is unconscionable and morally reprehensible,’ the order continued.

There's more here. Finally, something I can agree on with Bobby Jindal. 

Angela Merkel's Christian Democrats

Evidently, Merkel's Christian Democrats are not in favor of gay marriage. 

The majority of members of chancellor Angela Merkel’s Christian Democratic Party’s (CDU) Berlin faction oppose gay marriage, a poll has revealed.

It found 45% were against the German government opening marriage to same-sex couples, with 35% of members in support.

The poll, conducted to gauge member’s opinion on marriage throughout the country, also revealed that 3% deemed the question ‘not important’.

Berlin’s general secretary Kai Wegener, who announced the result today, said: ‘I believe this result will accelerate the debate on a national level.’

The result comes ten days after Merkel said she supported gay marriage, as long as it was not called marriage, in an interview with German Youtube star LeFloid.

Another example of why there's still a long way to go. It's actually kind of interesting to me because I've worked with several European publishers in the past and I've always been under the impression things were more open and liberal over there. I guess not in all cases.

I don't get the part where she supports gay marriage as long as it's not called marriage. What should we call it? She's a backward woman who is missing something important. The whole point behind "gay" marriage is we hope that someday it won't be "gay" marriage. It will just be "marriage."

The rest is here. 

Review for The Rainbow Detective Agency The Guy With Two Penises

I saw this review for one of the Rainbow Detective books and thought I'd share. I like reviews like this because they mention things that normally don't occur to me while I'm writing. I just do it and when someone makes comments like this I wonder sometimes how I managed to do it.

In any event, here's part of the review, below. You can read it in full here. There are a few other reviews, too.


What I miss in most gay-themed books is a realistic, tension-filled symphony and cacophony set up by two highly individualistic men. Proctor and Blair are such men. They are opposites who, whether or not either will admit it, are blessedly made for each other. And yet they seem always on the verge of breaking into splinters by the sheer tautness of their hold on each other. Their chemistry is freaking off the charts. Together they set off an electromagnetic charge that defies description. My kind of characters.



Sunday, July 26, 2015

Gay Slur Painted on NY Home: Dutch Singer Thinks Miley Cyrus Is A Fake

Gay Slur Painted on NY Home

This is one of the reasons Tony and I have security and cameras everywhere, and also why we specifically *chose* to live our lives in a place that's gay friendly with a larger gay population. Unfortunately, not every gay person does live in a place like this and they have to endure this kind of bigotry.

The home of a New York gay couple was vandalized with the slur ‘Jenner fags.’
According to WNYT.com, the graffiti was noticed by Lyle Houston on Thursday morning (23 July). He called partner John Mcenerney after discovering the damage to their Wynantskill home. Wynantskill is located approximately 8 miles from Albany.

‘You would think my initial gut reaction would be like, “oh my God, I fear for my life.” I kind of feel more sorry for the person that they felt it was necessary to try to destroy somebody’s house,’ Mcenerney said to WNYT.

You can read the rest here.


This doesn't just happen to gays either. I remember when my younger straight brother took an African American girl to his prom. The next morning the "N" word was painted all over my parents garage doors.

Dutch Singer Thinks Miley Cyrus Is a Fake

This is amusing. A Dutch singer, Loona, is calling out celebrities like Miley Cyrus for claiming they are bisexual. Loona allegedly thinks these celebrities are full of crap and only looking for publicity. Hey, gay is the new "black." It's getting the most publicity and who isn't trying to make money on that?

Singer Loona, whose last single Caliente was out on 5 June, was referring to Kristen Stewart, Miley Cyrus and Cara Delevingne during a broadcast on female bisexual celebrities for boulevard magazine Punkt 12 on German freeview channel RTL.

She described Stewart, who was in a relationship with her Twilight co-star Robert Pattinson for at least two years, as being ‘more of a masculine type’, saying: ‘I could accept it [bisexuality] from her.’

In 2013, Loona admitted to faking being in a same-sex relationship with a German model for PR purposes; she now said she never expected the attention the relationship got, but couldn’t really believe Cyrus’ relationship was honest.

‘Miley Cyrus is a girl only looking for publicity,’ she said in the interview.
‘So I don’t believe her; and it’s definitely a PR stunt.’

Frankly, if I had to bet on this my money goes with Loona. I see so much fakery these days with some people that I only have to see a post or an update begin with "Weeee" and I go into cringe mode.  Oh wait, there's "Squeeee." I think it's amusing because most people know this and they just don't say anything. Most people are too polite.

And while Cyrus might be bisexual and all this hype might be sincere, I love this Loona for actually having the guts to speak up, call it out, and not care about what anyone thinks.

The rest is here. 

The comments are interesting.

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Saturday, July 25, 2015

Expansive Gay Rights Bill; China Won't Allow Gay Sitcom; Murder of Trans Woman Caught on Video

Expansive Gay Rights Bill

I'm backing off a little with excerpts and links to Queerty.com.  I don't have anything against Queerty, however, I've noticed a change since the marriage ruling. Instead of posting about the gay rights bill Democrats have been working on, they're posting about...Madonna. I just don't think Queerty is interested in representing all gay men anymore. They seem focused on a smaller more concentrated segment of gay male readers.

And there's nothing wrong with that. I think everyone knows I love cheesy clickbait as much as the next person. And, there are plenty of mainstream news outlets talking about the more important LGBT news items so it's not like I'm at a loss for free content.

In any event, Democrats have been working on an expansive gay rights bill that will protect against discrimination.

For gay-rights advocates, if there was any conceivable downside to their definitive victory  at the Supreme Court last month, it was the sense of finality that came with it. There was no equivocation, no qualifiers, no hedging in the Court’s decision. The right for same-sex couples to marry is now enshrined in the Constitution, culminating a decades-long battle that accelerated rapidly to a decisive victory in the last few years. They had won.

With their most important goal achieved, what more could they want? Quite a lot, it turns out.

“Despite how far we’ve come, we cannot mistake our progress for victory,” said Winnie Stachelberg, the executive vice president for the Center for American Progress, the liberal think tank.

You can read the rest here.  

China Won't Allow Gay Sitcom

In foreign news, there's a gay sitcom called Rainbow Family in China, and the Chinese government allegedly won't allow it to air on TV. So they're streaming it.

 Rainbow Family focuses on Xie Kezan, a gay man in grad school who has yet to come out to his family. Joining him in the cast are Song Yi, Xie’s best friend and the thirstiest of straight girls, as well as a flamboyant roommate, Austin, and Austin’s freeloader ex-boyfriend.

Creators of the show list Will & Grace as a major inspiration in terms of design and script.   The sitcom is produced by Ling Jueding, the CEO of Chinese gay hookup app Zank.

You can see some of that here. 

Obviously, there's a lot of work to do globally, too. 

Murder of Trans Woman Caught on Video

I still like linking to Gay Star News in the UK because unlike Queerty, they seem to balance the news with cheap clickbait and serious items. The only problem with Gay Star is they have these weird plug-ins that don't work well with most browsers and I hate dealing with tech issues like that when I'm blogging.  I wish web site owners would plan for this and not assume anything.

But I digress. And I don't like to complain about free content either. They do a great overall job at Gay Star. Here's a story about a transgender woman who was murdered and it was caught on video.


A transgender woman was stabbed in the neck by someone in a car after being called over to talk.
The murder was captured by surveillance video from a local tattoo shop.

K.C. Haggard, 66, died from wounds suffered in the attack that occurred in the California city of Fresno early Thursday (23 July).

According to the local Fox affiliate, the graphic video of Haggard’s attack shows someone in the passenger seat stabbing her in the neck then the car driving off. The victim is then seen holding her neck as she stumbles down the sidewalk and tries to flag someone down for help.

She then collapses onto the sidewalk.

More about that here. 



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Friday, July 24, 2015

Can You Be Addicted to a Person? FREE Gay Book Excerpt; The Great Gay Movie; Boyfriend Experiment in Russia

Can You Be Addicted to a Person?

Yesterday on Twitter I saw someone mention something about being addicted to a person. I'm sure it was in jest, however, it made me stop and think if it's actually possible to be addicted to a person. I know people who are co-dependent. I think every married couple has a tendency to become that way over time. A family member was with his partner for almost 20 years and then they broke up but still remain business associates...a kind of co-dependency. But can you become *addicted* to a person?

I'm not sure that's possible. I follow people regularly on social media because I've either formed a bond with them, I respect them, they make me laugh, or just because there's something about them I really like. Sometimes they inspire me and they become muses. Especially on Twitter where you find yourself interacting with the same people who follow the same people. Maybe that's an addiction...or a form of addiction. Again, I'm not sure. In almost every single case it's more about respect and admiration. It's not even fandom. I think fandom is a completely different thing.

The reason I'm getting into this right now is because in the fifth book in The Rainbow Detective series, The Scottish Duke, one of the characters becomes "obsessed" with Proctor Gamble, (Proctor is one of the main characters in the series), and as the book progresses it becomes apparent this was not as much obsession as it was admiration, love, and great respect. I don't want to go any deeper because I would be dropping spoilers if I did. I just think it's interesting to speculate about whether or not we can actually become addicted to people...or not. I did a simple search and some think it is possible.

In any event, I've posted a free unpublished excerpt below from The Scottish Duke, where I get into the "obsession" part...that really isn't an obsession. It's a 45,000 word novel and I'll post more when I get closer to a release date. The first four books in the series are also being sold in a box set on Amazon and they are free with KU. Link, below.

The Great Gay Movie

This is being dubbed in some places as what could be "The Great Gay Movie." I've been reading about it for a while now and I'm curious. I agree to a certain extent with The Great Gay Movie part. I've seen a lot of good ones, but none I can call great...yet. It stars Julianne Moore.

With the impending release of Freeheld, a fact-based story about New Jersey police detective Laurel Hester (Moore) who is stricken with terminal lung cancer and tries to secure her pension for her partner (Ellen Page), an auto mechanic, before she dies. As an attorney who represents the couple, Steve Carrell looks to have found a role that combines his singular brand of comedy (The Office) with his capacity for hard-hitting drama (Foxcatcher earned him an Oscar nod earlier this year).

I don't know about great, but it sounds good. I like films like this set in New Jersey, partly because I'm from New Jersey and partly because it shows people that New Jersey is NOTHING like that reality show, The Jersey Shore The rest is here.

Boyfriend Experiment in Russia

I missed this one somehow. There was an experiment in Russia where two gay men walked around holding hands in public. It was filmed with a hidden camera. The results will make you wonder why people like Robbie Roberts still want to go there and support anything related to Russia.

A hidden camera captured an unyielding barrage of insults, slurs, skunk-eyed stares, and physical intimidation, culminating in one extremely tense confrontation.

To shed light on the reality of LGBT life in other hostile areas, Bird in Flight magazine decided to repeat the exercise in Kiev, Ukraine.

Things really didn’t go so well.

A group of neo-nazis or extreme-right men approaches the couple, asking them if they are patriots and getting aggressive.

You can read more here.  This is why I'm so adamant about NOT supporting Russia in anything. LGBT people in Russia deserve the same kind of support the US has given to people in other countries for treatment like this.

Free Gay Book Excerpt


After Proctor started his BMW, he entered the address where the detective wanted to meet him in West Hollywood in the GPS system. He knew he'd forget it if he didn't. It was a part of town with which he wasn't familiar and he'd never been to that particular apartment complex. In fact, there were many sections of Los Angeles with which Proctor had never been familiar because he'd moved to the west coast after he'd become a success. He knew the Hollywood Hills, he knew Holmby Hills, and he could find his way around Beverly Hills with a blindfold, but he'd never really become familiar with sections of the city like West Hollywood. He usually depended on Blair for things like this. Although Blair wasn't as familiar with Beverly Hills, he knew every last section of Los Angeles, from the docks to the smallest fish taco joint in West Hollywood.

His GPS led him to a dingy white stucco apartment complex that looked as if it had been built in the 1960's. It was the kind of place where someone either started out or wound up, a building where a young transient dreamer trying to break into show business would live with two or three roommates, or an older soul on government assistance who had discovered that most dreams don't come true after all. The way the unkempt curtains and old blinds hung lop-sided in the windows gave Proctor an empty feeling in his gut. All the front doors were this hideous shade of dark orange, the trim around each window in bright green, and the chain link fence surrounding the pool had rusted over in most places and no one seemed eager to keep it up. After Proctor's manager had run off with all his money and left him with practically nothing, this apartment complex was the worst of Proctor's nightmares and why he was still so determined to make The Rainbow Detective Agency work.

When he spotted the number of the apartment the detective had given him at the back end of the complex, he pulled into a parking space not far from the door and climbed out of the car. He glanced around and saw no one; just more dirty windows with bad blinds and crooked curtains, flanked by that awful bright green trim that reminded him of a cheap swimsuit he'd once worn for a lesser known designer. The same designer had been asking Proctor to model again and he'd been thinking about it seriously. Proctor still worked out and had the body of a man in his twenties, the cheap swimsuit line actually did get a great deal of exposure, and they were willing to pay him quite a bit of money. He'd told them he would think about it and get back, and he knew he had to do that soon.

He walked up to the orange door and knocked. A second or two later, a tall man with dark hair wearing a navy sport jacket and light slacks opened the door and looked Proctor up and down. As the man stared at him in the most unusual way, Proctor squared his back and said, "I'm Proctor Gamble. Are you Detective Schechter?"

"Ah, yes," the detective said. He stepped to the right so Proctor could enter. "Thank you for coming here on such short notice."

As Proctor entered and looked around, he found a forensic team examining various sections of the small apartment. Then he blinked and pressed his palm to his throat. When he saw his own image plastered on every single wall, everywhere he looked, he felt a chill throughout his entire body.
At first, he remained speechless, gaping at his own likeness, some photos splattered with blood. Then he took a breath and said, "I don't understand. What is all this?"

Detective Schechter escorted him to the other side of the small room, where a broken down table had been set up as a makeshift desk. On the table Proctor noticed an old fashioned desktop computer, with a huge monitor, a keyboard so old most of the letters weren't visible anymore, and an eight by ten framed photo of Proctor when he'd done a headshot for publicity about ten years ago.

"I was hoping you'd know more about this," Detective Schechter said. "Have you ever been here before?"

Proctor couldn't wait to get out of there. If there was any truth to the old saying "someone just walked cross my grave," he now knew what it was like to experience that. "Of course I've never been here before. Why on earth would I come here? I don't even know what all this is about."

Detective Schechter sent him a long, serious glance and leaned against a counter next to the makeshift desk. "I'm investigating the death of a best-selling writer known as E. Q. Montana. His real name was Elizabeth Stumpf. E. Q. wrote gay romance, with a pen name, and it seems that he based most of his characters on you."

Proctor's head started to pound. "He? I thought you said her name was Elizabeth."



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Thursday, July 23, 2015

Hard Facts Penis Sizes; Oral Sex to the Finish; Sam Smith and Balenciaga

Hard Facts Penis Sizes

The results of a new study on penis sizes were published this past spring. I know how everyone likes to keep up to date with things like this so I'll get right to the details.

The researchers were super specific about which ones they included in this review. They only used studies where penis size was measured by a health professional, because…people lie. 

They also included only studies that had at least 50 participants who were all at least 17 years old. To be consistent, they looked only at studies where flaccid and erect penis length was measured from the root to the tip (apparently there are other ways of measuring?) and penis circumference (girth) was measured at base or mid-shaft. And only studies published in the English language were included. 

Studies were nixed if any participants could have had any congenital or acquired penis abnormality, erectile dysfunction, or if they were specifically seeking penis enlargement.

You can read more here. According to this study, the average penis size is under six inches in length. You can tweet that now.

Oral Sex to the Finish

I didn't want to use certain vulgar words in the title of this post, and I'm determined to keep it as clinical as possible, without getting too clinical. I think it's a topic gay men and women wonder about...and in some cases even worry about.

I'm talking about giving men oral sex to the finish. In other words, to swallow or not to swallow.

This is from Cosmo:

While a lot of guys find it incredibly erotic to watch a woman swallow their ejaculate, it doesn't increase the physical pleasure they experience. In fact, when the ending isn't so predictable — as swallowing can sometimes be — the encounter can be a lot more exciting.

One way to give him earth-shattering oral pleasure without having him come in your mouth is to finish him off manually.

You can finish the article here, pardon the pun. My only comment is that it depends on the person. By that I mean it depends on the person to whom you're giving oral sex. Sometimes you're into it, and sometimes not as much as you should be. Just don't ever fall for the old line, "I'll pull out in time." That's as good as saying "the check's in the mail."

Sam Smith and Balenciaga

Sam Smith has really lost a good deal of weight. As a result, he's been chosen as the new face for Balenciaga clothing.

He made the announcement on Twitter.

Smith, who has taken flack in the past — mostly from Howard Stern and internet trolls — for having a little more to love is getting into the high fashion spirit, sporting a slimmer physique and the kind of bored to the point of comatose expression that luxury campaigns are made of.

You can read the rest here. I'm not only a huge Sam Smith fan, but I love Balenciaga...even the men's cologne, and I don't love that many colognes. I've been wearing that for years. I liked Sam Smith before or after the weight reduction. And the only thing funny about people who fat-shame like Howard Stern is their dated comedy and the fact they haven't been able to keep up with the changes in the way society laughs nowadays.

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