Friday, November 21, 2014

Zac Efron on Masturbation; Free Gay .99 Excerpt; Alec Baldwin On Grindr & Don Lemon Rape Comments;

Zac Efron on Masturbation

Here's a link to one of those multi-linked articles, where at one point they show a video of Zac Efron talking about how often he masturbates...with James Franco. Pure clickbait, but it's fun...and it's Friday.

Zac Efron is simply better at everything than the rest of us. Not only can he masturbate 17 times a day, he tells James Franco that he can do it without using his hands and offers an impromptu demo.

You can read the rest here, where there's a video. It's actually an interesting link because it also mentions Mike Nichols and there's a great Shirley MacClaine clip as well.

Alec Baldwin On Grindr 

It looks as if Alec Baldwin is making some kind of statement with his new web series, Alec Baldwin's Love Ride, about gays in a general sense. I think everyone knows what happened with his gay-hate rants that may or many not have been misinterpreted. I'm not getting into that now because I actually don't think Baldwin is a homophobic man, nor does he dislike gays. I think he's got a really bad (vicious) temper and doesn't know how to control it.

I don't support what Baldwin said. But it bothers me that Baldwin paid so heavily for his statements and since that happened others have gotten off with a pat on the wrist. James Franco gets away with passive aggressive homophobia all the time and they can't get enough of him. Nick Jonas gay baits and even gay men who don't have the slightest clue about cultural appropriation stick up for him. Maybe this is my conspiracy paranoia working overtime, but it just doesn't seem fair that there always seems to be two sets of standards.

Recently, everyone's dream guy, Don Lemon, over at CNN made a few ridiculous statements with regard to rape culture and so far no one's gone after him the way they went after Baldwin. And frankly, I think what Lemon said about women was far worse than what Baldwin said about gays during Baldwin's out of control rant. Lemon was not ranting or out of control. He was sitting quietly in a TV studio and he wasn't even slightly upset. If you do a search for Don Lemon and rape comments you won't come up with much from the lgbt media.

In any event, Baldwin gets into gay love/hook ups in this article.

They cover the differences between Grindr, where the couple met, and Scruff. As Alec puts it, “Scruff is where you send pictures form the waist up, and Grindr from the waist down.” How little he knows…

He concludes that the couple is “awesome” as he is fed questions from his lesbian friend off camera. He even offers up her uterus at the end of the ride. How generous!

This is one of those times I'm personally at odds with many in the gay community, especially gay media. As an openly gay man I find it somewhat disingenuous that this publication wrote this piece with this tone, and that most have yet to go after Don Lemon for what he said about a woman who was allegedly raped by Bill Cosby. But Lemon and Baldwin apologized, but only Lemon was given the free pass. There's something wrong with that on a much deeper level.

You can read the rest here. What they basically do is remind you of Baldwin's past offenses in a way that comes off looking shabby and tired instead of clever and relevant.

Free Gay Excerpt: Four Feet Under With My Buddies

When this story was released I had about a hundred things going on and I never really had a chance to promote it very well. I know that it appears to be only about a foot fetish, but it does actually go much deeper and I wanted to give a sample to show that. There's a story here, too.

Here's the amazon link, and it can be found in most places where e-books are sold. Please also keep in mind that this is a raw version before edits because it's more compatible with google blogger than PDF. 

            The day we buried old Clyde it rained. A slow, steady drizzle began at noon and lasted for the next thirteen hours. And the only thing I could think about was I hadn’t gotten laid in months.
            I stood outside beside my mom, dad, younger brother, and housekeeper, Mattie Johnson. We all wore black and held miss-matched umbrellas with frayed edges. The only one who actually cried was my younger brother.
            And that’s because we were burying his pet rat and we couldn’t have cared less. He’d insisted we all congregate in the back yard in a show of mutual respect and we all decided to support him. He’s only ten; he made up a shoe box to resemble a miniature casket, with brown paint and tiny little cabinet handles he’d pilfered from my dad’s tool shed. He even read a short eulogy he’d written on the back of a school essay in blue crayon and expected each one of us to say a few words about Clyde when he was finished.
            When I glanced at the expression on Mattie Johnson’s face as she gazed down into a dark hole that looked about four feet deep, I smiled. Her eyebrows were quirked, her lips pinched, as she searched for the right words to describe the pet rat that had always made her either jump or scream.
Mattie Johnson cleared her throat and rolled her eyes. She took a deep breath and said, “Ah well, rest in peace old Clyde.” Then she shot me a serious, urgent glance, letting me know she was finished and it was my turn.
            I reached for my brother’s shoulder and said, “He was a great little guy. We’ll all miss him. He was one of a kind, buddy.” Then I flung my father a look to let him know it was his turn.
My father cleared his throat and glanced down at the shoe box in the hole. He seemed to be at a loss for words until my brother’s little head went up with an unyielding glance that even tugged at my heart. That’s when my father softened and said, “Max is right. He was a great little guy and we’re all going to miss him, kiddo. He was one of a kind.”
I rolled my eyes at my father for mimicking me, and he shrugged. He could have come up with something original.
            Then my mother talked about the time “good old Clyde” escaped from his cage and we couldn’t find him for three ways. Mom laughed and smiled; she held my younger brother’s other shoulder and sent him reassuring glances as she spoke. She rambled with a sing-song tone, and for a minute I worried she might break into a chorus of The Sound of Music and expect us all to yodel.
The only one who didn’t smile this time was Mattie Johnson. And that’s because she’s the one who found Clyde the last time he’d been lost. He’d somehow found his way to her bedroom off the kitchen and into her underwear drawer. When she opened the drawer to get dressed the next morning and reached inside to pull out her granny panties, she saw Clyde looking up at her with his beady red eyes. She screamed with such might we all came running down to see what had happened. By the time we got there, Mattie Johnson was out cold across the pink and white chenille bedspread and Clyde was still in the underwear drawer rummaging through her panties.
            After the funeral service, we all went back to the house for a small reception my younger brother had planned out in advance. In Clyde’s honor, there were celery stalks, carrot sticks, lettuce leaves, and some kind of grainy thing no one touched. For the first time since I’d been granted a license to drive I was thrilled about getting another speeding ticket. We had to go to court that afternoon and we only had about an hour to spare at the funereal reception after Clyde’s services.
            At this point, I should probably explain the reason we were going to traffic court is because my mom has been studying to be a lawyer for a long time. I would have paid the ticket and been done with it. I still had a few points to spare before my license was revoked. I would just drive more cautiously. But mom was in her last year of law school and eager to pass the state bar and get started. She was a little too eager, if you ask me. When she heard me explain the reason I got the speeding ticket…because the wind was blowing and a huge branch from a weeping willow tree was blocking the speed limit sign…she insisted I plead innocent to the ticket and fight it in court. At first, I was against this. I actually begged her to let me plead guilty even though it was true about the branch covering the speed limit sign. It really wasn’t my fault this time. Ever since the last speeding ticket I’d been driving like a ninety year old. But my mom insisted she’d represent me and that I had nothing to worry about.
             Three hours later, I slumped through the front door of our home with my head down and my hands in my pockets. My mom followed, with her lips pressed together and her gaze fixed on the back of my head. Mattie Johnson was in the kitchen getting dinner ready; the pots and pans were clamoring in all directions. My dad and brother were on the living room sofa watching TV. When dad looked up and saw us walk inside, he smiled and asked, “How did it go?”
My mom shrugged and set her purse on the chair next to the hall closet. “Not quite like we thought it would, dear.”
            I turned and sent her a sharp stare. Then I turned the same glance on my dad and said, “You won’t believe it. I still don’t believe it. The judge was almost ready to dismiss the entire case, with the stipulation that I attend a few hours of driving school. They weren’t even going to give me points against my license. I was home free.”
             My dad stood up and smiled. “That’s great, son. Sounds like your mom did a great job.”
            “I’m not finished,” I said, with a deadpan tone. I glanced back and my mom and rolled my eyes. “When I jumped up to thank the judge, mom turned around and told him it wasn’t acceptable. She pointed at the judge and insisted the speed limit sign was being obstructed by the willow tree branch, and then went into an hour long dissertation. She mentioned other cases like this; she gave examples from books. I’m not joking either. By the time she was finished, the judge was hanging over the bench ready to beg for mercy.”
            Mom put her hands on her hips. “I was right. And that judge knew it.”
Dad frowned and asked, “What happened after that?” I could see he wasn’t portending good news by the way he rubbed his jaw.
            I looked up at the ceiling. “It wasn’t pretty. I won’t go into all the details. I lost my license for three months, I get three more points, and I still have to go to driving school.”
            “I’m going to appeal this,” Mom said. “I’m not going to stop until I win.”
I turned and headed toward the stairs so I could wash up for dinner. On my way, I said, “Please don’t do me any more favors, mom. I’ll wind up without a license for the next decade.”
            The thought of being without a driver’s license for three months was more than I could handle. I sat at the dinner table that night pushing my food all over the plate and didn’t say a word. I was going to a local community college and it was bad enough I was still living at home with my mom and dad and not in a dorm. It was even worse that I still jacked to gay porn in the bedroom where I grew up. My long term goal was to attend a four year university in the fall. I’d been accepted; I knew I would have plenty of freedom then. But the thought of being without a license while still living at home and commuting to college turned my stomach to the point where I couldn’t even look at food. Everyone tried to cheer me up. Mattie Johnson even offered to make me an ice cream sundae with wet nuts. But I just sat there sulking, staring down at my plate.  I wanted my license. And the only wet nuts I wanted that night were between some guy’s hairy legs.
            After dinner, I had to ask my mom for a ride. My dad was going out to play poker and Mattie Johnson didn’t drive at night anymore. I was still mad at mom for what happened in court. But I didn’t have much of a choice. I always worked out at the school gym about four or five nights a week. It’s quieter and there aren’t many people around at that hour: there wouldn’t be other guys stripping and changing in front of me. Jock straps and athletic cups make my knees weak. I felt comfortable in the locker room on the off hours and I didn’t have to worry about getting turned on. I was usually the only one there and I always wondered who locked the doors at night. Although I’m not the best athlete and not the biggest guy around, at five feet seven inches tall and one hundred and fifty pounds, I always did my best. I have great pecs that really pop when I’m pumped, if I do say so. And I know I’ve turned a few heads when I take my shirt off and people see my abs. I always figured the more I work out the bigger and better I’ll get. Besides, when you’re gay, still living at home in the small town where you grew up, and going to community college, there’s not much else to do on a Friday night.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Real Life HEA; Raunchy Naked Men In Seattle; Aging Models Parody Film Scenes

Real Life HEA

For those who don't know, and I know most don't, HEA means happily-ever-after in romance publishing circles, gay or straight, historical or modern. Without HEA there's no point to a book being called a romance. It defines the genre. I'm not talking about romantic drama or romantic comedy. I'm talking about Romance. For me, that's not up for debate. And that's partly because in real life we rarely see HEA. In real life we all deal with divorce, cancer, rape, nasty friends and all kinds of other things that gut us daily. I want that HEA in romance. But sometimes, in real life, we do see a happy ending, and in this case it's for two gay men.

John Smid, who once claimed to have been “cured” of homosexuality and who worked with various “ex-gay” groups, is once again a married man. Only this time, he didn’t marry a woman. He and his partner, Larry McQueen, announced they tied the knot last weekend.

In 1980, Smid left his wife to be with guys, but he had misgivings and tried to go straight again by marrying a second woman and becoming a leading spokesman for conversion therapy. He ran Love In Action, an ex-gay ministry based in Memphis, and sat on the board of Exodus International for 11 years.

Here's the rest. There's a fantastic statement made about how other "ex-gays" should look for their own truth, too.

Raunchy Naked Men In Seattle

When people like me here in the east with a strong New York influence think about places like Seattle we often conjure images of  hippie types walking around in a daze wishing everyone peace, love, hope, and change. We think about coffee shops with brick walls where mostly white people read poetry and the best sexual thrill comes in the form of a haiku. We dream about moving there to live more peaceful lives because everyone drives a little silver electric car and no one flips the bird in heavy traffic. But that's so wrong of us, and here's just one of many reasons why. They're evidently having a lot of fun out there and we're missing it all.

A party called Area 2181 hit the Eagle in Seattle over the weekend, featuring a meat market of ill repute and plenty of cruising. Dark corners, crotch-grinding, and dom/sub gear fogged up the windows, or at least it would have if they weren’t already blacked-out.

Go-gos Matt, Ethan and Ben sampled each other in the cage, while promoter Kirk James roamed the premises wearing as little as possible. Resident DJ Pavone welcomed guest DJ Jens Irish, with a house/acid/techno sound that kept the asses shaking late into the night.

Here's the link to photos you won't want to miss on a boring Thursday.

Aging Models Parody Film Scenes

I'm in my early forties and I often find it amusing when younger people have such a strong attitude about youth, especially because they think they're always going to be young. They actually think 30 is old. Wicked as it may be, I love to think about them when reality finally hits and they realize they're going to get old and they are eventually going to die. That's life. That's not something anyone can escape. You will get old...if you're lucky. And it's going to happen sooner than you think. 

This doesn't always mean you have to embrace getting least not mentally. And no matter how hard you try to fight aging physically, the mental part is always going to be the most important factor. The last thing I ever want to be is one of those old ass-hats who sit around complaining about texting and all that evil technology, and wondering why no one sends Christmas cards through snail mail anymore.

But you do have to accept getting older no matter what. And I think these models in this calendar are doing a wonderful job. In a way, this could be a great HEA, too.This is one of those times it kills me because I can't share a photo legally here on the blog for copyright reasons.

We’ve been covering a lot of calendars here lately. There’s the hipster anti-hunks, the oddly sexy orthodox priests, sizzling gingers and of course the naked Warwick rowers. But we may have just found our new favorite.

A retirement community in Germany has released a calendar where seniors recreate famous movie scenes. And it is just as adorable as it sounds.

Here are the months that stood out to us, reminding us simultaneously that we love cinema and our grandmothers:

The photos are here. I suggest checking them out if you're a fan of Breakfast at Tiffany's

The Sheriff and the Outlaw

by Ryan Field

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Gay White Men and Black Female Culture; All Gay Prison Wing; Pope On Gay Marriage; Ten Old Time Gay Slang Words;

Gay White Men and Black Female Culture

Last summer, in July, there was a debate going on all over the Internet about the way black women feel as if some white gay men are stealing their culture. This one falls under the category of cultural appropriation, which I posted about yesterday, if you scroll down a little. It's interesting to me because I see an almost identical argument between gay men and straight women happening in m/m romance from time to time, and it has nothing to do with whether or not women can write gay fiction or misogyny. That's a weak argument when compared to cultural appropriation. The only big difference here, in this case, is that the black women who feel as if their culture is being pilfered by gay white men are speaking up about it and they're not taking it passively.

Evidently, the entire firestorm erupted after an article titled, "Dear White Gays: Stop Stealing Black Female Culture," in a Mississippi newspaper, written by a student named Sierra Mannie. The only honest comment I can make about that title is that I wish she hadn't made such a broad generalization. Not all gay white men, me included, are trying to steal black female culture. But that's an entirely different argument for another time. The point is that many black women do feel this way and I'm not going to disagree with them if they feel this strongly about it. The black woman always gets the last word on black female culture, not me. I don't have the right to do that. I only get the right to have the last word on gay and all the other gay people out there. I could research black female culture, I could interview women about black female culture, but I'm not, and never will be, part of black female culture. And for me to argue that point would make me an idiot and a racist.   

Here's a quote, with strong language, and I think it's important to make it clear we're not talking about transgender people here. That's another discussion, too.

“You are not a black woman,” Mannie writes to the offenders, “and you do not get to claim either blackness or womanhood. It is not yours. It is not for you.”

The author of the article I'm linking to, J. Bryan Lowder, goes on to comment and make distinctions about the kind of gay white male who does these things. And I couldn't agree with him more if I tried.

Here's an excerpt I found spot on:
There is nothing wrong with this argument, as far as it goes. Gay white men like myself are indeed not black women, and for us to “claim either blackness or womanhood” would be strange, if not outright offensive. On that limited point, I join with Mannie in bemoaning the type of white queen who struts around in a kind of performative blackface, claiming to hold a “strong black woman” captive inside himself and invoking other Tyler Perry-like caricatures with oblivious glee. This kind of behavior, I think it goes without saying, is racist.

Likewise, Mannie’s survey of Structural Inequality 101 is well-taken, if not particularly original. Anyone at all familiar with these issues can only nod at a statement like: “A culture of racism is bad enough, but pairing it with patriarchal structures that intend to undermine women’s advancement is like double-fisting bleach and acid rain.” Indeed, being a woman of color in the United States is in many ways a bum deal—and probably, on balance, a worse one than gay white men enjoy.

I agree with Lowder and Manning, and frankly I'm sick and tired of the cultural appropriation I see going on everywhere these days. It's harmful and it is racist and I know how Manning feels because I feel a different kind of cultural appropriation at times. The most positive thing, as Lowden points out, is that the segment of gay white males within the gay community who are doing this is very small...on the fringes. And that's encouraging, because it's the same with the appropriation of gay men often face, too. At least I don't feel it that often, and I stay away from the "places" where it happens the most...usually Facebook, Twitter, and certain blogs.

You can read the rest here. If you do a simple search there are a lot of articles about this that were written around the same time last summer.

And in case you don't feel like searching, here's one more article on the topic. I know I've lost half of you by now, but I think it's important enough to mention because it's so wrong. What cultural appropriation does is silence and dismiss. 

Cultural appropriation happens when members of the majority (in this case, white men) decide that blackness is a performance, a set of vocabulary, and some exaggerated hand gestures that white men can put on and off in the same way that they perceive black women do. Cultural appropriation happens when white men determine what the essential qualities of black women are and only see black women with those qualities as worthy of attention and praise. In the case of white gay male appropriation of black womanhood, those qualities are being fierce and the undefinable “sassy.”

But more important, the same thing applies when straight appropriation of gay culture takes place.

All Gay Prison Wing

I never knew anything like this all gay prison wing. And this one is allegedly the only one in America.

It's been dubbed the "gay wing" in LA's downtown jail and someone recently did a short documentary on it.

The film centers around Dave Williams, AKA Yah Yah, a transgender inmate known for her performing impromptu fashion shows in her dorm, where she takes pride in showing off her flashy refashioned jail attire. Yah Yah turns bedsheets into halter-top baby-doll dresses with matching white Cinderella gloves, and jail uniforms into tie-dyed hot pants.

The quotes are interesting because it's another segment of the gay community I've personally never identified with. Unfortunately, as with most articles like this they fail to tell us why Dave Williams is actually in jail. But it's a prison; he obviously did something illegal and I think it's important to keep that in mind...otherwise those of us who are following the laws are wasting our time.

The rest is here. The article goes on to mention other things about this particular prison life, like the way straight inmates sometimes pretend to be gay just to be sent to the gay wing...they allegedly have some kind of "gaydar" test to figure them out. I have no idea how that works, but I'm curious.

This one kind of bothered me:

The sense of community there is so strong that it isn’t uncommon for people to re-offend once they’re released to be back with their chosen family.

In case you didn't pick this up, "re-offend" is the PC interpretation of breaking the law, committing the crime, or in some cases maybe even causing willful harm to someone who is following the law. And I'm sorry if I can't jump up and down screaming Huzzah! in this case. I do think it's important to protect these people from certain obvious things that could happen to them if they weren't in an isolated section, but I find it very hard to support the concept that convicted criminals are having a good time in jail to the point where they feel a sense of encouragement to re-offend just so they can go back to prison.  

I hate to sound like a hard ass, but isn't the point of prison/rehabilitation to punish the offender?

Pope On Gay Marriage

I have to admit that I follow everything related to the Pope and gay marriage closely because I was raised Catholic, went through 12 years of Catholic school, and I know how Catholics think and respond. In other words, in Catholic school you are taught to think like a Catholic and if you don't you're most likely going to run into trouble...which I often did, trust me. There's a certain amount of brainwashing that runs deep and it NEVER wavers. It's all based on the principle of the sheep following the shepherd. So when I see people in the gay community jumping up and down for joy when the Pope offers a slight tidbit that he might be a supporter of gay marriage and equal rights, I stand back and wait for the proverbial shit to hit the fan.  And it always does.

Like this:

The Pope said: 'It is fitting that you have gathered here to explore the complementarity of man and woman. This complementarity is at the root of marriage and family.' 

He added: 'Children have the right to grow up in a family with a father and mother capable of creating a suitable environment for the child's development and emotional maturity.'

Many are calling this a step back for the "liberal" Pope with respect to gay marriage. I'm calling it "it is what it is" because I know how they think. Unfortunately, this could also be the reason why so many Catholic schools and parishes are closing all over the United States.

There's more here. The comments are kind of sad because you read about people who had hope and now that hope's been shattered once again. And I'd also like to make it clear that most straight Catholics I know don't think this way and the Pope's disappointed them, too. The most interesting thing about all of this is that there's this huge dichotomy between the executive branch in Rome and the people.

Ten Old Time Gay Slang Words

When I opened this article I thought I might at least know a few of these old time gay slang words, but I never heard any of them...not even from older gay friends I've known over the years.

Here are a few examples:

Barbarella (n.) – Unrestrained homosexual, uncontrollable desire by a man for sexual intercourse one that needs to have sex all the time. Enough with the slut shaming. You are not a whore, you’re a Barbarella. Much classier!

 Mother Superior (n.) – older and wiser gay male who has been around the block a few times; similar to “auntie,” but more favorable. Ageism in the gay community is awful. Cross-generational friendships can be enlightening for both parties. Maybe this would help spin them a bit more favorably.

The rest are here. I'll bet you don't know what a "Tinkerbell" is. According to the comments, I'm not the only one who hasn't heard of them either. I think that's because a lot are from the UK. 

The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field


Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Harmful Cultural Appropriation; Charles Manson Weds; Gay Cop Kisses Criminal; Oprah's Oscar-Bait Movie; Anti-Hunk Male Nude Calendar

Harmful Cultural Appropriation

There's an excellent blog post up over at Cecilia Tan's web site titled, Appropriation Versus Diversity Glossary. I'm linking to it partly because I know it's there and I can reference it whenever I need to in the future, and partly because I think it's important information to understand in the most basic sense nowadays.

It's actually a simple glossary with complicated topics we all see constantly. I already know what they are, but I don't think most people do and they're missing out because they don't even know what they're talking about half the time. To give an example as it might relate to this blog, to gay fiction, and to the overall Big Gay Story, I think harmful cultural appropriation is important to understand. I did not title this blog The Big Gay Story by accident.

Cultural appropriation: “cultural appropriation typically involves members of a dominant group exploiting the culture of less privileged groups–often with little understanding of the latter’s history, experience and traditions.” ( Make no mistake: cultural appropriation is harm.

With respect to the LGBTI community, I see this happen time and again and people don't even realize how harmful or insulting it is. It means that unless you're actually part of the LGBTI group you will not know what it's like to be LGBTI, not even on your best day, after you've researched all things gay and quizzed all your gay friends. It's one thing to support a group, and to help a group, and to fight for equality with that group, but it's a completely different thing to claim you know and understand how they feel and where they are coming from. And when you do, you run the risk of harm and the worst kind of exploitation and discrimination there is. You also look ill-informed, uneducated, and arrogant in a clueless way. I'm noticing more and more that exploitation and support seem to be running hand in hand, especially when there's money involved. 

In any event, you can read the rest here. As I said, it's a fundamental glossary of terms all writers (and some readers) should know and understand in the most basic sense. In other words, it will enlighten you.

Charles Manson Weds

I guess most people would think there's nothing too significant about this article. But seriously. CHARLES MANSON IS GETTING MARRIED IN PRISON AND GAYS STILL AREN'T LEGAL IN MANY US STATES.

The 80-year-old inmate, convicted of conspiracy to commit multiple murders, has obtained a license to wed Afton Elaine Burton, 26, who as a teenager moved to California to be near him and has visited him for seven years. According to records with the Kings County Clerk-Recorder, Manson and Burton applied for the marriage license Nov. 7.

You can read the rest here. Again, Charles Manson, convicted 80 year old killer, can get a marriage license to wed a 26 year old woman, in prison, and gay couples who've never committed one single crime in their lives and who've been together for decades still can't count on legalized federal same sex marriage across the board.

That's some interesting WTF-ery.

Gay Cop Kisses Criminal

Imagine being in a deli when a hot gay cop runs in and arrests a criminal he's been chasing all over town. And, as the male criminal arches his back and submits to the cop, they share a long, deep kiss. That's exactly what happened in NY, but there's a catch.

OK, we’re busted. It’s just a clever promo for Adult Swim’s The Eric Andre Show. And let’s be honest, this video is all about the reaction of the woman in red behind the counter. She obviously likes what she sees.

You can see the video here. And, I'm posting about my .99 e-book, Bury It Officer, below. It's a story about a gay cop who does a lot more than kiss a criminal and they live happily ever after in my story.

Oprah's Oscar-Bait Movie

Evidently, Oprah was doing the Castro recently to promote her new film, Selma. They refer to it as "Oscar Bait," which we all know is most likely the case.

But I don't think she was with her best friend, Gayle.

Nothing huge to report here other than a link to an amusing video...and a few other stories about gay happenings.

Anti-Hunk Male Nude Calendar

In yet another attempt for the race to the finish with nude male calendars, this one kind of surprised me because it's being promoted as "Babes of Bushwick" anti-hunk calendar. I thought I'd find guys who aren't all that fit and trim parodying the muscle boy calendars...kind of Seth Rogen type guys.

However, what I found were photos of really hot guys...who are NOT considered hunks because they aren't bulging with fake steroidal muscle tone. That same muscle tone that's become about as cliche as too much plastic surgery and Lisa Rinna's lips. 

And in Bushwick, the hipsterific and gentrifying Brooklyn neighborhood, what constitutes a calendar pinup is a little different than in most parts of the world. Bulging muscles? Not so much. A guy with a soft spot for kittens? Definitely.

You can see what I'm talking about here. These guys are anything but anti-hunk. And the comments seem to agree with me. 

Bury It Officer
.99 Gay E-book

Monday, November 17, 2014

"Foxcather" John du Pont, Gay Angle; Crimes of a Chickenhawk; Foxcatcher 1996

"Foxcatcher" John du Pont, Gay Angle

In 1996, John du Pont, from the wealthy du Pont family in the Philadelphia area, shot and killed a wrestler named David Schultz. I remember the story well because it was all over local Philadelphia news at the time, partly because du Pont was from such a prominent family and partly because he locked himself in his house for days until he finally surrendered to police after a long stand off.

Also at the time, I remember hearing rumors about du Pont being a closeted gay man. Of course none of those rumors were ever brought out in public, at least not through local mainstream media. If you do a search you'll find several fascinating articles about it...and many come with comment threads where people have left even more fascinating pieces of alleged information that the press conveniently overlooked. This link to wiki states that du Pont was, in fact, gay.

 du Pont married Gale Wenk in 1983. They annulled their marriage ninety days later. du Pont was gay.

Now there's a film out about du Pont, Foxcatcher, which focuses on the murder of David Schultz. It would have to focus on the murder because the only other interesting thing about du Pont's life was that he loved wrestlers. He loved them enough to build a wrestling training camp on his estate, which is called Foxcatcher. He called the wrestling camp "Team Foxcatcher." And, David Schultz was living on the estate with his wife at the time he was murdered by du Pont.

The film has received a few negative reviews, this one being the worst I've seen so far.

Not content to portray the vaguely sexual murder through In Cold Blood–style social observation and psychological speculation, Miller pretends to get “political.” The du Pont–Schultz disaster is presented with solemn music (including Bob Dylan’s “The Times They Are A-Changin’”) and a nighttime image of the Washington monument here contextualized as a defiled phallic symbol — evidence of national decadence and decline. Miller shows the instincts of a dull-witted editorial writer, not an artist.

I'm not getting into film reviews, but notice the comment about "vaguely sexual murder." That same vaguely sexual aspect of this case has been following the story since it first happened. This morning I was flipping through local Philadelphia morning news channels and several had short segments devoted to du Pont and the new film out about him. Not one mentioned anything about him being gay. Not one mentioned the fact that there's even been speculation. I was waiting, but it was completely ignored. And I find that hard to take because it's still implying that there is shame associated with being gay.

Here's a link to a comment thread where someone posted some interesting facts.  

This is only part of the comment:

John duPont was a whack job and gay. His marriage was clearly an attempt to throw people off of the truth. Many Delaware Wrestlers trained at his estate in the off season because it was the best facility around. These men are now in their 30′s and 40′s. They attended the facility in groups and never wanted to be alone with the guy. 

I will see the film, but my point with this post is that I'm tired of anything remotely associated with being gay is treated as if it's a taboo topic by the mainstream media. At least mention it as a possibility if it's important to the story and don't censor us anymore...even if it's not flattering and it doesn't create a happy-cry moment.

Here's a link where you can read about the book, Foxcatcher.

Crimes of a Chickenhawk

This is about John du Pont, too. I wanted to post something from a gay media POV and found this review of the film, Foxcatcher. The title, for those who don't know what a "chickenhawk" is, refers to older gay men who are ONLY attracted to much younger gay men. That term's been around for a long time.

The earlier part of this post is how the media ignores the gay angle in the film. This part of the post is how the film allegedly insults gays in general. I haven't seen the film so I can't comment.

When du Pont awakens Mark for an after-midnight work-out, we’re shown the beast-with-two-backs in silhouette. Miller’s “tasteful” approach keeps us in the dark but surely du Pont and Mark know they’re humping. Miller’s innuendo robs them of their full tragedy while indie movie power brokers who sponsor Miller’s elite homophobia deflect their snobbery with a violent climax. They promote gayness as a pathological stereotype. In its grim, art-movie way, Foxcatcher is a form of gay-bashing. Lovers of the singlet had better stick to Matthew Modine, Michael Schoeffling, and Frank Jasper (pictured below) in the 1985 wrestling mat classic Vision Quest.

You can read the entire review here.

Foxworth: The History l996

And here's an article from l996 that discusses the murder and all kinds of eccentricities du Pont had. And then this:

 There were also rumors that du Pont was gay, and that his interest in wrestlers went beyond the appropriate bounds of a coach.

Interesting. And I had to dig to find that one.

You can read the rest here.

Again, my point has nothing to do with the more complicated matters presented about du Pont or the murder investigation. I'm not even commenting on the film right now. My point is simple and I'd like to know why the strong gay angle in this story isn't mentioned when it's being discussed by the media almost twenty years later.

The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field


Sunday, November 16, 2014

Disney Gay Prince Hoax; Do Gays Want to Redefine? Gay Man Set Afire; Amanda Bynes's Anti-Gay Comments

Disney Gay Prince Hoax

It's reached a point where I never tweet, blog, or update about anything anymore if I even have the slightest doubt it's a hoax. And if I can't find it at snopes, I don't say anything at all. In this case I'm talking about the Internet hoax that went around all week about Disney making a gay film with two gay princes, based on the book, The Princes and the Treasure. It's not going to least not yet and with Disney.

The 'report', which has so far been shared 60,000 times on Facebook, claimed it would be adapted from Jeffrey A. Miles' children's book The Princes and the Treasure. 

While the book is real, the adaptation isn't. 

In the very modern fairy tale, two very dashing princes set off to rescue a princess… and unexpectedly fall in love with one another and get married. 

The author said he was inspired by the increase in same-sex marriage legislation around the world and a desire to write a fairy story that included a gay marriage.

The rest is here. Moral to this story? Don't be so quick to click share or retweet, especially if it sounds too good to be true.

Last year some Mormon woman slammed Disney's "Frozen" for normalizing the gay agenda and I'm still trying to figure that one out. I recently watched "Frozen" again (yes, I like Disney films) and I still can't find one single thing in the film that has anything remotely to do with normalizing the gay agenda. Go figure.

Do Gays Want to Redefine?

Here's an interesting article that touches on something I post about here all the time. The misconception many have about the LGBT community. In the article a conservative pundit I've never heard of, Ben Carson, claims that it's not about civil rights, but that gays want to redefine everything for everyone. He made these comments in an interview with Larry King.

‘Why isn’t same-sex marriage a civil rights issue?’ asks King. 

‘For me, it’s not a big issue,’ replied Carson. 

‘You know, I think people can do whatever they want to do. It’s just that they don’t get to redefine everything for anybody else. So I’m very much a libertarian in the sense of believing ‘‘live and let live’’, but that goes in both directions and some people don’t recognize that.’ 

I never thought about it that way. But if anything, I think the LGBT community is trying more to be like everyone else than redefine anything...or to have the same rights as everybody else. But Carson is a pundit and pundits always know how to put a spin on topics like this. What I'd like to know is when did the straight/religious community in the US get to define the way everything is supposed to be?

You can read the rest here.

Gay Man Set Afire

Update: This story just grew even sadder. The man who was beaten and set afire passed away. Here's the link for more. 

Here's a sad one, with a bitter twist of irony. A 46 year old gay man who had been taking a "break" from his longterm partner since summer, went out for one last fling because he was getting back with the longterm partner the next day, wound up beaten and set afire by a 26 year old in a hotel room.

The victim had most of both arms amputated after he was severely burned when the hotel room they were in caught fire. 

White's long-time partner, Alex Teal, told the media that he and White had been dating since 2009 and still lived together, but 'decided to take a break' this summer. 

'So that night was his last night of freedom,' Teal said as the pair has agreed to try again starting the next day. 

Police arrested his alleged attacker Garry Joseph Gupton, Greensboro Water Resources Department employee, at the hotel.

Two local clubs in Greensboro, NC are having fundraisers to help with the medical expenses. You can read the rest here.  I can't even imagine.

Amanda Bynes's Anti-Gay Comments

This sounds more like Bynes is dealing with emotional issues than anything else, and it's not a very fair article. A "friend" taped her ranting about her family and her gay friend.

With a "friend" like this, who needs enemies? In any event, TMZ, as usual when it comes to all storms of shit, was the first to pick up on this unfortunate invasion of privacy. I'm not sticking up for Bynes or promoting anti-gay comments. However, it is mentioned that Bynes was recently released from a psychiatric treatment center and I don't think it's fair to judge people who are dealing with a mental illness. It's as if these articles take pleasure in someone's health issues.

'Because all this has done is made me look ugly. Stop with the dad nonsense, like, your obviously, like, homo hun. It makes you not anything other than, like, be yourself. 

'Your face makes you look un-ugly, not your sexual preference. I'm just going to make fun of you but it will be really subtle like, I am slow, but, like, in my heart, like, I will shoot you in the face but with an ugly insult.'

I hope someone helps her get the help she needs. The rest is here. Why did I post about this? Because they make it sound as if someone made all these horrible anti-gay comments, they take it out of context, and they mislead readers with clickbait headlines. Once in a while I think the real story should be told, which in this case is that Bynes's privacy was violated, she has health issues, and this should never have been news in the first place.

The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field

‘Why isn’t same-sex marriage a civil rights issue?’ asks King.
‘For me, it’s not a big issue,’ replied Carson.
‘You know, I think people can do whatever they want to do. It’s just that they don’t get to redefine everything for anybody else. So I’m very much a libertarian in the sense of believing ‘‘live and let live’’, but that goes in both directions and some people don’t recognize that.’
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Saturday, November 15, 2014

Adam Lambert on Gay-baiting; "Lumbersexual"; Zachary Quinto Comments; The James Franco Review Entitlement?

Adam Lambert on Gay-baiting

Gay-baiting is something I've posted about many times. It comes in several forms, but mostly, lately, it's when good looking straight male pop stars or actors self-exploit and tease gay men with their bodies and/or highly charged sexual innuendo. Finally, openly gay singer Adam Lambert brought the topic up in his twitter feed. Evidently, I'm not the only one who's been noticing this and wondering about it. 

This week on Twitter, the out singer asked his followers: “Anyone find it interesting how straight male pop stars are pandering to gay audiences lately!? Should we be flattered? Progress or strategy?”

In a followup tweet Lambert insisted he wasn’t throwing shade at anyone, but that he’d rather hear artists talk about their music “not be teased on [whether] someone MIGHT be bi curious or gay or straight. Who cares?”

This particular article goes on to mention that this form of gay-baiting could just be appreciation. And I'd like to know how dumb do they think we are? Nick Jonas may claim he's "authentic" and that anyone who questions his motives is "ignorant." But if you take a look at the photos of him in this article basically anything he says is hard to take seriously. And there's nothing wrong with that. But here's something really authentic: he didn't drop his pants and grab his dick for the sake of great art.

You can read the rest here, where there are screen shots of Lambert's tweets. I'm just glad a gay man with a voice is finally speaking out about it.


This story has been floating around the Interwebs all week and I just chose a UK publication because I like the way it was written...and there aren't as many pluggins as Huff Po which makes it possible to actually read something in a relatively decent amount of time.

In any event, the newest thing is that the term Lumbersexual is replacing Metrosexual. Frankly, I haven't heard anyone use the term Metrosexual since the early part of the century. I guess you could look at it this way. A lumbersexual dresses like a quasi lumberjack, with hipper, hotter clothes that are designed on purpose to give him that "speshul" look.

Put down that moisturiser and remove that man bag from your person boys because metrosexuality is well and truly over. Nowadays it's all about the 'lumbersexuals'.
Not literally men who are lumberjacks (because really, where are you going to find one of those?) but men who look like they could be.  
Unlike their metrosexual brothers these men look rugged, unkempt and like they'd be a dab hand at using an axe... even if they've never picked one up in their lives. 

Here's the story. There are photos so you can see what they're talking about. You really have to love the one with David Beckham, all butched up like a down home lumberjack coming home from a long day of log rolling, AND carrying a four thousand dollar Louis Vuitton bag.

The comments are amusing, too.
Zachary Quinto Comments
The other day when I wrote this post about Zachary Quinto slamming gay men, especially younger gay men, with respect to AIDS, I actually wrote a much longer post but I went back and I edited out some of the comments I made because I didn't want to come off too hard. But it bothered me, just like the comments Zachary Quinto made slamming gay men, and I'm not the only one who felt this way.
My main complaint with what Quinto said was more about his lack of information and his off the cuff comments that didn't seem to have any substance. It's like he made the comments without knowing anything at all about the subject. And I'm tired of privileged celebrities blowing smoke up our asses that way. It happens time and again and no one ever calls them out (Nick Jonas).
But not always. This time someone did call Quinto out. Someone who felt the same way I did about the Quinto comments wrote a much longer piece and he didn't hold anything back. 

First, Zachary’s use of the parenthetical in “(some of)” is back-handed. Without the parentheses, it’d just be a way of explaining the subset of people Zachary is referring to — “some of the younger generation” — couldn’t be clearer. But that’s not what he’s doing. Instead it’s as if he means to say “all of the younger generation,” but realizes that would land even worse. We’re guessing some of those young people he’s talked to don’t appreciate being stuffed between two parentheses.

Second, it is Zachary’s opinion that using PrEP as a way of drastically reducing your risk of contracting HIV during “unprotected non-monogamous sex” is an “outrage.” And this is where people differ with his characterization.

I highly suggest reading this article in full. And this is the last time I ever self-censor on a topic this important.

The James Franco Review Entitlement?

Before I get into this I'd like to state I'm on the fence about it...even though it might not sound that way at times. And in a way, it goes well with the previous part of this post about celebrities and privilege. Someone in Seattle decided to start a new literary review called The James Franco Review. But it has nothing at all to do with James Franco or his written work. It's all about his name, privilege, his being a man, and the fact that he allegedly has more doors open to him in the publishing industry because of his overall privilege.

I get that. I've been in publishing for over twenty years and I've seen people like "Snookie" get book deals and editors make next to nothing each year. The latest outrage was reading that Jonah Lehrer just landed a book deal after his plagiarizing debacle. In other words I get the point behind The James Franco Review, but I still can't help wonder if it's disingenuous to writers, to women, and to anyone who has ever worked as a career writer and done well without coming from a place of privilege, like Franco. And there are a lot of writers I know making a decent living thanks to good old fashioned hard work and they didn't need to use James Franco's name to get there. Last I heard, James Franco didn't come from a place of privilege either. He worked hard to get where he is, too.

I know Rose McGowan doesn't think gay men care about feminism, but I found this part about The James Franco Review hard to the very least, questionable. I'm still trying not to form any opinions with this one. Instead of working actively to break the barriers of gender discrimination, they're going to pretend they're men? And they're going to borrow Franco's name to get published? I can't even imagine a professor giving this advice to young women...or even admitting it in print. It's not something I would have done.

“Years ago,” writes founding editor Corinne Manning, “my friend Erin and I joked that we should submit some fiction under a boy’s name. Aaron and Carl. A younger professor told us, solemnly, that wasn’t such a bad idea. Neither of us had the guts to do it. But when we started seeing James Franco’s name in magazines, and then saw his book of poetry from Graywolf, we joked again: Let’s submit some fiction under James Franco’s name and see what happens.”

On Facebook whoever runs The James Franco Review fanpage actually seems proud of this comment. 

The Stranger wrote a great article about the journal. Fiction editor Erin Sroka put it so well: "Instead of being some woman, willing yourself to stay focused for a few hours before or after your job each can just skip ahead and be James Franco."
"Some woman?" Is that the right approach to take when building a writing career? How do feminists feel about this? If it's meant to be sarcasm I think it runs the risk of epic failure. But more important, should we be laughing about something this serious?So far, no one's posted much about it at all and I'm curious to see other reactions. I love the fact that there's a new literary review out there for all writers, but I think I would have liked to see it done with more sarcasm...or at least make it clear they're going for sarcasm and trying to empower women at the same time. 

James Franco was clearly on top of this one. He posted this on Facebook earlier yesterday. But that could be sarcasm. You can never be sure with him.

Good luck to the james Franco review
Hope my name helps!

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