Saturday, October 25, 2014

Is Batman Gay? Gay Jesus; Nick Jonas on Bulges; 25 Awesome Moments American Horror Story

Is Batman Gay?

Do we really care? I'm not sure we'll ever know for certain, however, this article discusses the topic, in short. I'm not into comics, so I'll quote more than explain on this one.

Multiversity: The Just #1, by Grant Morrison and Ben Oliver, was released on October 22 and is set in a world where superheroes have become obsolete (sounds a bit boring). Rather than saving the world from evil villains, Batman and Superman and the likes are treated more like celebrities, and where there are celebrities there are bratty children of celebrities.

Find out the rest here, where there's also a link to another piece on the topic about the overall "gay" interpretation of the batman series. That part is actually interesting.

Gay Jesus

I can only imagine the backlash this piece is going to receive, and I think it might be justified to a certain extent this time. I'm not very religious at all, however, I also don't like to judge things like this because it's art and it's subjective. I owned an art gallery for many years in New Hope, PA, and the most consistent thing I learned is that art is something you have to feel passionate about. I don't feel that way about this particular art, but others do.

They give an explanation that almost sounds plausible, but to me it looks like click-bait designed to give attention to people who otherwise normally wouldn't get it. In any event...

“A queer Passion is crucial now even for non-believers because Christianity is being used to justify discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people,” Cherry, a minister and art historian, says in a press release. “The book speaks not only to the LGBT community, but to everyone who is passionate about building a more just world.”

The rest is here. I'm just not into it. But I do think this shows how different the gay community can be.

The comments are candid.

However, there's a more aggressive article over here. This time they're claiming Facebook discriminated against them and censored them because of sexual orientation. The comments with this link are even more interesting.

Nick Jonas on Bulges

Now this, I think, is almost funny because it's so transparent. Gay baiting Nick Jonas who always seems to be the cute little straight guy pandering to gay men is at it again. (If you notice I rarely post anything about Nick Jonas for very concise reasons. I don't like gay baiting.)  But can we really blame Jonas? This article is in a gay publication. They didn't have to publish it.

Jonas, currently starring as a possibly gay man in the DirecTV series The Kingdom, also offered a quick tutorial on filming sex scenes. Fun was had by all.

In a video at this link, Jonas plays a game that deals with guessing male celebrity bulges.

And, once again, the comments are more interesting than the article. I would be remiss if I didn't post this one because it makes me wonder if gay men are finally getting sick and tired of this kind of thing.

That’s what I’m trying to figure out. And this Jonas kid REALLY needs to stop with the desperate pandering to gays. He’s trying way too hard. Sorry, he can take his shirt off and play little dumb cutesie games like this and I’m still not buying his lousing music.

25 Awesome Moments American Horror Story

Here's a link to an article with 25 of the most fascinating moments on American Horror Story. I think it's the whole series combined...with all seasons.

Obviously we use the word “awesome” with quite a bit of leeway when discussing a show whose stocks-in-trade include disembodied racists, serial killing teen ghosts, and self-administered asylum abortions – but these 25 WTF American Horror Story moments kept us coming back to Ryan Murphy and Brad Falchuk‘s small-screen slaughterhouse season after season for more campy, blood-soaked thrills.

Here's where you can see them all. 

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Friday, October 24, 2014

Family Circle Gay Backlash; Davey Wavey on Safe Sex; Gay In Prison; Pat Robertson: Gay Rights Activists Terrorists

Family Circle Gay Backlash

Remember how I posted about Family Circle Magazine earlier this week, and how they did a feature with two gay dads in a new feature section? Well, there's been plenty of backlash from the anti-gays out there about that feature and it hasn't been pretty.

Women's magazine Family Circle just made history by featuring a gay family in its publication for the first time ever, but they were met with backlash from some hateful readers.

Same-sex couple Chris and Bob Osner-Hackett appear alongside their two daughters in the most recent issue of Family Circle in a new question-and-answer column titled "Modern Life."

Here's the link. You can read the comments from facebook, and the people who commented are listed by name. I'd rather not put that kind of thing here on the blog. I don't even like linking to it. In this case, as in most others, the hate is coming once again from the good old God-loving religious types.

Davey Wavey on Safe Sex

Sometimes I wonder if these things are meant to be serious or not. Common sense dictates the best way to talk about safe sex with a potential partner is to come out and say, "I only practice safe sex, like it or not." That's what always worked best for me. I'm really not joking about this. I have no complaints, and if anyone didn't like talking about it, or me stating this, I went home alone. I never buckled to peer pressure. I'm not trying to sound holier than thou either. I was a kid when AIDS started and I still remember the details all too well.

Evidently, Davey Wavey has a few tips on how to bring up the topic of safe sex in a more casual way. I honestly didn't even think something like this could be an issue. But I guess it is and at least someone is discussing it in a way that makes sense to those of you who are embarrassed.

For many guys, simply asking, “Hey do you have a condom?” does the trick — it’s direct, lets him know you’re on board to get down, and sends the message that safe sex is a priority for you. If he responds, “Uhh…no, but it’s cool,” then you know you have a problem.

My only comment is that you should never be embarrassed to say you practice safe sex, not with anyone. And never trust anyone who tells you it doesn't matter to him.

You can read the rest here.

Gay In Prison

I personally have no doubts about this one...that it sucks to be gay in prison. I can't even imagine what it would be like. And this article makes some very interesting points.

15 former and current inmates at San Bernardino Prison in California filed a class action lawsuit alleging mistreatment and discrimination because they're gay and bi.

The lawsuit says that the, “inmates are not given equal access to opportunities to reduce their sentences, services, programs and facilities, and are often treated in an abusive and neglectful manner. In short, GBT inmates at WVDC serve longer sentences and endure substantially worse conditions of confinement simply because they are gay, bisexual or transgender.
Unlike the male, non-GBT general population, sentenced GBT inmates at WVDC are generally not allowed to participate in the inmate work program, and, to the extent they may occasionally have limited access, it is substantially less than that available to non-GBT inmates.”
You can read more here. The rest is as disturbing.

Pat Robertson: Gay Rights Activists Terrorists

When I posted about Anderson Cooper responding to something Pat Robertson said about the AIDS virus, yesterday, I didn't know the discussion would continue. But now it seems Pat Robertson is calling gay activists terrorists.

“These people are terrorists, they're radicals, and they're extremists,” Robertson told "700 Club" viewers. “No Christian in his right mind would ever try to enforce somebody against their belief or else suffer jail. Now they did that during the Inquisition. It was horrible. It was a black mark on our history, but it isn't being done now. There's no Christian group I know of anywhere in the world that would force somebody to do something contrary to their deep-held religious beliefs or else face criminal penalties, but that's what the homosexuals are trying to do here in America and I think it's time pastors stand up and fight this monstrous thing."

It's hard for me to comment on this one because I'm not an activist. I just believe in good old fashioned civil rights and equality for all. But aside from everything else in this article, you'd think Robertson would at least get it right in a technical sense when he makes claims that AIDS can be spread through towels (his comment is in the link below), because it's getting harder to take the man seriously.

You can read the rest here.    

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Thursday, October 23, 2014

Anderson Cooper on AIDS; Is Michael Sam Done? Are Gay Men Mean to Each Other?

Anderson Cooper on AIDS

The thing I find most interesting about this article is that for once an openly gay men who has a highly respected position and who has nothing to hide from anyone is challenging someone like Pat Robertson with facts about AIDS. In the past, we haven't had anyone who has been able to do this for us. It makes me feel more validated for some reason.  You just can't fake certain things.

It seems Pat Robertson, the good Christian evangelist, has been telling his followers they can get AIDS by passing a towel. Cooper made it clear that's not how AIDS is passed, with this:

“Just to be clear, if, like Pat Robertson, you somehow missed all the evidence, all the research, the depth and breadth of all the knowledge garnered about HIV and AIDS over the past three decades, you cannot get HIV if you share towels,” Cooper said.

Just beware of visiting San Francisco, Cooper cautions. “Because that’s of course where all the gay people live and Pat Robertson thinks they have an ingenious way of giving you ‘the stuff.'”

In fact, most doctors will agree it's not easy to get AIDS because the way it's spread is so specific. In one case, I personally heard a doctor say this. I think most of my readers know how that works. If you don't, there's plenty of information out there with a simple search, and trust me you're not going to find any scientific data the proves AIDS can be spread through sharing a towel. And if you think that's how it's spread you have more problems than worrying about AIDS.

The rest is here.

Is Michael Sam Done?

Yesterday I posted about Michael Sam getting cut from the Cowboys, and I also mentioned I couldn't find much information about the story anywhere. Not surprising. Those good old boys don't want to touch this one with that proverbial ten foot pole.

However, today I found this story, and it's not very encouraging. And I don't think it's fair. I know it's a huge disappointment to see what's been happening to Sam (it gutted me for a moment), but I still think he's going to be picked up by someone eventually.

Well we’re sorry to report he did not make the team, after all. After spending the first seven weeks of the season on the Cowboy’s 10-man practice squad, they’ve decided to drop him to make way for linebacker Troy Davis, a second-year pro from Central Florida.

On the bright side, now he’s free to explore reality television with Oprah again. Assuming, of course, she’ll still take his call.

My prediction is that Sam will get picked up by another team. I think this article does him an injustice as a gay man who has inspired so many younger gay men...and gay men of all ages. I understand the disappointment because I felt it, too, but I don't believe for a moment we've heard the last of Michael Sam. I also think we'll be seeing more NFL players come out of the closet and tell the world they're gay. You think Michael Sam is the only one? If you do, you probably think AIDS can be spread with towels. 

You can read the rest here. The comments all agree with me. I think we'll be hearing more about Sam in the future.

Are Gay Men Mean to Each Other?

I'm honestly not sure gay men are any meaner to each other than straight men are with other straight men, or women are with other women. Have you ever seen two nasty straight men in a competitive situation? It's not pretty.

The fact is that for some reason there's always a little peer pressure or competition between the same groups of people and that's not going to change any time soon. It even happens in various professions. Doctors are often competitive and mean to other doctors. Actors can be mean to each other. And, trust me, you have NOT lived until you've watched two vicious, vituperative, competitive authors entertain you with their vitriol online.

It is what it is. I think gay men get more attention because it can be entertaining at times in a campy way. I think I've even admitted here on the blog that I often get along much better with straight men because there's no underlying competition. The dynamics make it easier. I have many gay friends, don't get me wrong. But there are some gay men in this world that make my skin crawl. I don't think that's mean. I think that's normal. And this article discusses the topic with Jimmy Fowlie’s Californian web series Go-go Boy Interrupted,which I haven't seen yet myself.

Commenters are unafraid to voice their often extreme opinions (about this show and literally everything else on the planet), which is the subject of episode three, out today.

Watch as disgraced go-go boy Danny Carter tries to cope with the bad press, and as always, feel free to chime in below.

This you can check out here.  There's also a video.

Here's just one comment that discusses the topic, plus it gets into Internet anonymity...verbatim:

there will always be the anonymous gay cowards who use internet anonymity to impotently vent their hatred, their insecurity, their jealousy….and who are their targets? usually it’s the openly-gay men who are living their own lives on their own terms – and basically being “the type of gays” that the Anonymous Haters need to “not be” in order to be barely-tolerated by the bigoted heterosexuals in their lives.

yup – it’s internalized homophobia, it’s bitterness, it’s jealousy, and it’s the anger that others are out there living their lives why they have only internet anonymity as their outlet.

I'm always on the fence with Internet anonymity. On the one hand I believe in it and I allow anon comments here on the blog, however, I moderate those anon comments constantly because as much as I believe in free speech I don't believe people can be trusted with the honor system. That's human nature, too. And some people are just plain, downright, rotten to the core.When you give them an open forum where they can comment anonymously they'll always ruin it for everyone else by saying things they normally would never say with their real names. A scorpion will always sting, but if you know this you might be able to swat it dead before you get stung.

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Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Gay Family Circle; Michael Sam Cut From Cowboys; Downton Abbey Gay Cure; Ariana Grande On Catholicism and Gay Brother Frankie

Gay Family Circle

I received one of those magazine gifts last year for Family Circle Magazine and my first thought was OMG, now I have this to throw away, too. Although I still get several print magazines, the only one I order myself is Architectural Digest and I wind up throwing the rest away. I get my news...and I also never see anything LGBT related in mainstream publications and the content doesn't interest me. Plus, the last thing I need in my life is more clutter from print magazines.

However, as I was glancing through the most recent issue of FC, I noticed a feature story with two gay men...married with two children. The piece is in a new section of FC, titled "Modern Life," with a caption on the first page that reads, "Our biggest challenge? Finding time to sit down to dinner together!" There's a photo of two perfect gay dads, with their two perfect kids, that could have been a photo of Ozzie and Harriet 60 years ago.

I can't find an online link to the magazine, but I did find this piece about the new "Modern Life" section in FC.

A new “Modern Life” feature, which highlights nontraditional families, marks perhaps the biggest leap forward for the magazine’s content. “I didn’t think we were doing the best job of addressing all the different types of families,” admitted Fears. “We thought shows like Modern Family were actually doing a better job.”

Ironically, last night I was catching up with the TV show, Modern Family, on demand. I'm still not a huge fan of the show in a general sense, but I can't say that I don't find it interesting to see how they continue to mainstream gay people into society. I don't talk much about assimilation here on the blog, and that's mainly because I don't think it's possible to avoid this kind of assimilation anymore. With the equality we've been fighting for all this time there comes a price, and with that price comes changes in gay culture as we've always known it. In other words, you're not going to see or hear anything about drag shows, prison parties, Sunday afternoon tea dance, or anything even remotely related to gay culture on TV shows like MF or in magazines like FC.

And I think many gay people crave this heteronormative lifestyle. So why shouldn't FC put up a stupid, ridiculous feature with two gay dads the same way the do with hetero people? They've been doing this for years with hetero people and making fools out of them. It's only fair we get our turn now.

You can read more here about Family Circle, if you find that sort of thing interesting. 

 Michael Sam Cut From Cowboys

This one bothers me. The Dallas Cowboys cut openly gay pro football player, Michael Sam from the practice team, after being there since 9/3 and never making the 53- man roster. Previously, he was cut from the SL Rams.

 'Sam, the first openly-gay player in the NFL, was a seventh-round draft pick of the Rams,' the statement continued. 'He spent all of the offseason and training camp with the St. Louis before being released and signed to the Cowboys’ practice squad.' 

The team noted the spot will be filled by linebacker Troy Davis, a second-year professional. 

Sam used Twitter to thank the team. 'I want to thank the Jones family and the entire Cowboys organization for this opportunity, as well as my friends, family, teammates, and fans for their support,' he wrote

You can read more here. Sam goes on to make a gracious comment, without a hint of bitterness. He plans to continue his career as a pro player.

There's not much more about this story yet, and it seems as though no one wants to even touch the subject. I wonder why. Maybe they should all start reading Family Circle's "Modern Life" section of at the NFL.

Downton Abbey Gay Cure

One of the things I enjoy most about historical shows like Downton Abbey is the way we can reflect on the idiocy that was supposed to be correct back in those days. I was watching The Knick last night and the cure for a drug addiction was giving the addict heroin. I'm not joking about that. And in the upcoming season of DA the gay character, Thomas Barrow, is supposedly going to get injections that will cure him from being attracted to men. The word gay wasn't used until the 1970's and I hate using it in reference to same sex situations prior to that.

Julian Fellowes said in an interview with ITV, 'He falls for the quackery that this can be cured, that he can get rid of this dumbbell he is dragging around with him. His fortitude takes him through a period of incredible physical discomfort.' 

'The result he seeks is impossible – it’s not to be obtained by any medical treatment, it was just quackery.'

Unfortunately, there are still quacks out there who believe gays can be cured.

You can check out the rest here.  

 Ariana Grande On Catholicism and Gay Brother Frankie

Pop singer, Ariana Grande, disclosed that she renounced her Catholic roots in support of her openly gay brother, Frankie Grande. For those who don't know, Frankie is a talented performer who was recently on Big Brother this past summer. I can't recall the name of the play, but he just landed a new gig on Broadway.

 'When my brother was told that God didn’t love him I was like, "OK, that’s not cool,"' she said in an interview with Sunday Telegraph magazine. 

'They were building a Kabbalah center in Florida so we both checked it out and really had a connection with it.' 

She said since renouncing Catholicism for Kabbalah, her life has changed for the better.

Although no one in our families has done anything similar, Tony and I are non-practicing Catholics for the same reasons Ariana left the church. If we ever decided to adopt a child I would want him/her to grow up with some kind of religion, but it wouldn't be Catholicism. I know most practicing Catholics do support gays, and I even know a few priests who do, too. But the big picture is more important in a case like this.

One thing is certain, you never have to wonder why the Catholic church seems to be losing people as each year passes.

You can read the rest here.

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'Sam, the first openly-gay player in the NFL, was a seventh-round draft pick of the Rams,' the statement continued. 'He spent all of the offseason and training camp with the St. Louis before being released and signed to the Cowboys’ practice squad.'
The team noted the spot will be filled by linebacker Troy Davis, a second-year professional.
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Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The Big Gay Love Story: Ring My Bells by Ryan Field

The Big Gay Love Story: Ring My Bells by Ryan Field

I have a new release out today titled, Ring My Bells. The Big Gay Love Story part is something I may continue with all future stories as a subtitle. And this is a story. It's not a full length novel. I'm hoping all the product descriptions are clear on retail web sites where e-books are sold so no one gets confused. It's also priced at .99, which I'm trying to continue for as long as I can.

Here the link for And I'll post more links as I get them. 

Here's the blurb:

When the phone goes dead and a handsome young gay man with serious needs can't figure out how to fix it, he calls a repairman to get the job done. But the young man soon discovers the broken phone isn't the only thing the big strong repairman is eager to work on, and he's glad he answered the door without his shirt. It may not be true love at first sight, or the kind of story that will make a person weep with those unyielding, proverbial floods of emotion. But it is the kind of sexy, cheeky, happily-ever-after gay ending that might make a few people smile on a cold winter's night.

I think I made it clear in the blurb this isn't a romance in the traditional m/m sense. But I also want to make it clear there is a happy ending and it's one of my lighter stories that run more along the lines of traditional gay erotic fiction, with respect to gay culture. In other words, it's a sexy little story about real gay guys.

Here's an excerpt, and please remember this part of the post is fiction (smile):

About a year ago the telephone wasn't working. I keep a landline because cell phones still don't get great signals around here. There was no dial tone at all that morning; just a soft beep sound when I pressed the talk button, and the small screen lighting up pale green for a couple of seconds.
There had been severe thunderstorms the night before, but the electricity hadn't gone out and there didn't seem to be any lines down on the property. Maybe it just had to be re-set, I thought. Unplug the cord and plug it back in a half hour later. I remembered that had happened once before, after I'd left the phone off the hook for a while.

After leaving it unplugged for a half hour, it still wasn't working when I re-set it. So with the telephone in my hand, I went down to the basement to see if everything was connected correctly. Attached to wooden beams, I found red, blue, white and black wires all screwed tightly to where they should be screwed. Everything seemed fine. And then I noticed a phone line going to the burglar alarm system, with phone jack at the base of a one square foot, locked metal box. I hesitantly unplugged the phone cord from the alarm box (I hate to touch things I don't understand), pushed the talk button on the phone and I immediately had a dial tone. The problem, evidently, was with the alarm system; not the telephone.

It only took one phone call to the alarm company for them to tell me they knew the problem well and they'd send someone out to fix it that day. A surge protector, so they said, had burned out during the severe thunderstorms. Not a big deal was how they'd put it, and as long as I didn't plug the phone back into the alarm it would work perfectly normal. The same thing had happened to several other homes in my area, so they'd said.

This all happened very early in the morning, before I'd had time for my ritual workout routine. Though I work at home for the most part, I'm usually up at five thirty or six every day so I can cram an hour workout into the day with weights and cardio. I'm usually dressed, showered and shaved by eight and seated in front of the computer no later than eight-thirty. I'd assumed the alarm guy wouldn't show up until sometime that afternoon; they usually make you wait all day. So I ran a half hour on the treadmill and then did another half hour with free weights. This routine was strenuous, and often dull, but the workouts kept my waist at size thirty, my chest popping at forty-two inches, and my ass hard and firm. The small of my back, which is deeply curved (more so when I arch my back on purpose), is what guys always said they liked most about my body. At twenty-five years old, I like to think that what I do now as exercise will benefit me in the future when things begin change with age.

That's also the ironic part about me: I don't have issues with age. I'm usually more attracted to men with silver in their hair, a few lines on their faces, and mature looks. I've been known to go down on my knees for men who have slight middle age paunches. I think men reach their sexiest point around age forty and it keeps getting better as they approach their late fifties. Why I once jumped in between a couple of men in their sixties just to see what it would be like for both of them to fuck me. And those two horse hung daddies fucked me so long and so hard they left bruises on the backs of my legs and I walked with a slight limp for the next twenty-four hours.

I'm not sure why, but if there is a good looking guy in his twenties or thirties in the room, and a good looking guy in his forties or fifties in the same room, I go out of my way to make eye contact with the older instead of the younger. And it's always been that way, ever since I was three years old and I used to sit on Uncle Joe's lap. He was a neighbor, and not related to me, so there was nothing pervy going on there. He would bounce me up and down, innocently, thinking nothing of it. And I would get a thrill deep in my body I couldn't explain at the time. When I kissed him hello or good-bye, I made sure I rubbed my cheek against his rough beard on purpose.

James Franco Allegedly Attacks Photographer; Obama on Gay Marriage; Robert Downey Jr's Penis

James Franco Allegedly Attacks Photographer

Here's more on James Franco again, and I'm a little surprised because he always seems so calculated and in control...cunning in a brilliant way, as if you have to watch his every move and be a few steps ahead.

Allegedly, Franco was at an event in Hollywood that was being held in some graveyard and on his way out he tackled a photographer on the grass. There are photos circulating that show Franco smiling as if it's all a joke. I searched a few "reputable" sources online, about as reputable as you can get online these days, and found this.

The cameraman, however, is not the least bit amused even if the tackling was supposed to be all in good fun. He went down to a LAPD station the following morning, at which time he filed a report against the actor for what he had done. The report details the man’s claims that he had been injured following his fall, suffering a minor injury to his back based on the way he had fallen. He also alleges that his camera equipment had been damaged during the incident, and is no longer usable in the same manner thanks to Franco’s actions. Police authorities have since given the statement to popular gossip website TMZ that they plan on passing the case onto the appropriate detectives as of next week, who will do their best to inquire further into the situation and see if amends need to be made on the Franco’s part.

You can read more here. Several other articles out there mention a few other incidents Franco has had with the law. And this one goes on to mention another privileged celebrity and his incident with a photographer.

Obama on Gay Marriage

Whether you like President Obama or not, one thing remains certain: he's good with the social issues that most politicians just tend to ignore. And anything gay related is up there in the top ten of the issue ignoring list. This time the President recently commented on gay marriage, and how he believes it should be legal in all 50 states according to the constitution. 

He described it as a 'consequential and powerful signal of the changes that have taken place in society and that the law is having to catch up'. 
Obama, who first said he 'evolved' on gay marriage in May 2012, said the high court was 'not quite ready' to 'indicate an equal-protection right across the board'. 
'Ultimately, I think the Equal Protection Clause does guarantee same-sex marriage in all 50 states,' he said.

It seems, as gay marriage moves forward in all 50 states, it's coming down to religion vs civil rights. I think anyone running for office these days should pay attention and listen closely. The gay vote doesn't always go in the same direction, especially not with younger gay men.

Robert Downey Jr's Penis

Try to imagine this. An actor, Robert Downey Jr., is invited to speak at a prestigious university, Cambridge, to a highly select group at the university, and one of those students of the entitlement generation ask Downey how large his penis is. And better, the rest of them laugh and giggle. I have a sense of humor that goes beyond most people these days, and I'm not fond of the PC police at all, but I do think there should be a certain amount of respect shown to any speaker in all situations like this...without question. 

In any event, Downey replied very well:

They don't call me throbbing knob for nothing. His expression is priceless. Someone else might have gone after the kid.

You can see a video of the reply here. If anyone had asked a woman this same question about her vagina it would have been blasted all over the Internet and social media as misogynist, anti-feminist, and hate speech toward all woman. Jennifer Lawrence would never let you hear the end of it. Shouldn't it work the same way for men in similar awkward positions?

Too Hard to Handle

by Ryan Field
Speaking to The New Yorker, Obama said the best Supreme Court decisions since he took office was the recent rejection of gay marriage appeals from five states.
He described it as a 'consequential and powerful signal of the changes that have taken place in society and that the law is having to catch up'.
Obama, who first said he 'evolved' on gay marriage in May 2012, said the high court was 'not quite ready' to 'indicate an equal-protection right across the board'.
'Ultimately, I think the Equal Protection Clause does guarantee same-sex marriage in all 50 states,' he said.
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Monday, October 20, 2014

Twisty the Clown on American Horror Story; A Mom's Letter of Gay Remorse; Neil Patrick Harris on Being Gay

Twisty the Clown on American Horror Story

Even I have to admit that Ryan Murphy outdid himself this year with the theme of American Horror Story: Freak Show. The freak show appeal not only captures the end of an era in the US, but also proves the subject still has the ability to capture the overactive imaginations of people today. And one of the most interesting characters is the clown, and that's hard to top because all of the characters lend something fascinating to the show whether it comes in the form of high camp or it's deeply emotional.

In any event, John Carroll Lynch plays Twisty the Clown on AHSFS and he gave an interview recently to help explain what's happening.

Ryan Murphy had said that some of the crew had to leave the set at times because you were so scary.
There were many evenings where I was standing kind of apart from them -- as you see in the first two episodes; Twisty lives a solitary life. There were times I’d be sitting on the set and I would creep people out. In the first episode, where all of the people in the Freak Show are dismantling the body of the detective, I was standing apart as I was in the shot. Afterward I walked by and everyone was like, “Man, you’re really freaky over there.” I love that fact that people are dismantling a body on one side of the screen and then [people tell me] “I’m scared of you.” [Laughs.]

Do you think it’s mostly your costume that’s so freaky, or are you in full character the whole time on set?
I think a lot of it has to do with people’s general fear of clowns and fear of people in masks. But I also think it’s this kind of kooky discomfort around this person where you don’t know what his agenda is.

You can check out the rest of the interview here. Frankly, and this is no reflection on the show because I'm loving it, I don't get the fear of clown thing. Clowns never bothered me, not Twisty or any other clown. I love them. I'd be more frightened of a fictional character named Twisty the Vagina. But this clown is scaring the hell out of everyone else.

A Gay Mom's Letter of Remorse

There was an article recently about a mom's experience when she learned her son was gay. In short, the family of the gay son decided to make him choose between Jesus and being gay. It's a very hard story to read, because the more the gay son tried to change the worse his life became and he ultimately died. After the story was published the mom received tons of letters slamming her and criticizing what she did, and with good reason. Now the mom has published an open letter to the people who've been criticizing her.

From the original article that sparked all the negative reactions:

Now, when I think back on the fear that governed all my reactions during those first six years after Ryan told us he was gay, I cringe as I realize how foolish I was. I was afraid of all the wrong things. And I grieve, not only for my oldest son, whom I will miss every day for the rest of my life, but for the mistakes I made. I grieve for what could have been, had we been walking by faith instead of by fear. Now, whenever Rob and I join our gay friends for an evening, I think about how much I would love to be visiting with Ryan and his partner over dinner. But instead, we visit Ryan's gravestone.

This is from the latest open letter she wrote to explain how she really feels:

Our much-loved eldest son and dear friend Ryan is dead -- a fact that I daily try to get my brain wrapped around -- and if you have ever had a child and lost them, you know that the pain of losing a child never leaves you. Never. We will live with intense sorrow over his death until our own deaths, and right now that sounds like a very, very long time. 

When we weep and mourn, we don't question God or wonder why He allowed our son to die. We don't have questions for God that complicate our grief; we only have questions and accusations of ourselves. The tapestry of our grief is woven through with threads of remorse, regret and self-reproach.

It's a sad story that's repeated all the time...even to a certain extent in my own life. I never met Tony's mom. She passed in 2002 before I had the chance and we were already together for ten years. At the time, my family didn't know Tony either. In my case it was kind of a don't as don't tell thing. However, I made a point to change that the same year Tony's mom passed. And we got together with my mom and dad for dinner about a month later. This past summer, twelve years later, my mom spent six weeks with us recuperating from cancer surgery and Tony helped take care of her as if she as his own mother. It was six wonderful weeks of quality time I wouldn't exchange for anything in the world. We've had many dinners together.

Neil Patrick Harris on Being Gay

Neil Patrick Harris has a new autobiography out and there have been a few things mentioned in the press about the content. For one thing, he first knew he was gay when he developed a crush on a trumpet player in middle school in l986. For another, he mentions a kissing incident with Burt Reynolds.

'As a joke at the end of one take, Burt leans over and kisses you square on the mouth,' he writes.
'The crew thinks this is very funny, but it makes you uncomfortable. Uncomfortable and, it will ultimately turn out, gay. Burt Reynolds' kiss makes you gay.'
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But while appearing on BL Stryker did something happen that changed everything. 

'As a joke at the end of one take, Burt leans over and kisses you square on the mouth,' he writes. 

'The crew thinks this is very funny, but it makes you uncomfortable. Uncomfortable and, it will ultimately turn out, gay. Burt Reynolds' kiss makes you gay.' 

For those who have never seen this, here's a photo of Burt Reynolds, nude.

Now, if that sexy, fuzzy image of Burt Reynolds is not every little gay boy's dream come true I don't know what else is.

You can read more about Harris here, and I'm starting to think the book looks interesting. The problem these days is that it's a book I would have lunged at five or ten years ago just out of pop culture curiosity, but I have so much reading right now and so many other choices I'm not even sure I have time. Plus, the kindle version is 10.99, which means sorry Randon House but not until you drop that price a little.

But if you are curious about coming out, and you don't have anyone to talk to, I think this would be a great book to read in digital form on your phone, in private. Even if they are raking you over the proverbial coals a little with the ridiculous price of the e-book. Books like this usually help make the coming out experience easier when you see that you're not the only one.

Too Hard to Handle

by Ryan Field