Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Roman Catholic Synod and Gay Priest; Comments on "Gay For Pay;" ISIS Kills More Gay Men

Roman Catholic Synod and Gay Priest

A Roman Catholic synod is a group or council of the Church that is created to help provide a solution for some kind of law or doctrine. They examine/discuss issues of significant importance. That's really a very generalized definition, but I'm trying to make something very complicated short and simple.

In this particular case, Pope Francis put together a synod of about 300 Church leaders and lay people to examine how gays are treated, how unmarried straight couples who live together are treated, and, about receiving communion after divorce.

On the eve the synod was to convene a Roman Catholic priest announced he was in a gay relationship and he was dismissed shortly after that. Church officials as slamming this priest's motives and claiming he put even more pressure on Pope Francis than he already has.

But the synod is only designed to help examine and offer suggestions.

It will be up to the Pope to decide what - if anything - changes, and how the Church applies its teaching to its sometimes errant flock.

The outcome should be interesting and I wouldn't begin to speculate on what it might be at this point in time. I think Pope Francis is an interesting man and I don't mean that in a negative way.  You can read more here. 

Comments On "Gay For Pay"

Since yesterday's post on gay for pay, I noticed there were a lot of comments on the article I linked to so I decided to just focus on the comments for a change.

One person said this:

None of these guys are straight and if people want to claim they are… they think wrong. Just more closet cases and some of which are homophobic.
I’m going by the assumption that even a quarter of these are true… knowing the source. Whisper more like whiny bitches who can’t accept themselves (again assuming if any of these statements are true).

These were probably made by some gay guy with some self hating fantasy.

Another said this...

What a sad life having to rent out your body for a living.
Glamorizing it as “gay-for-pay” doesn’t change the fact that this is prostitution and that guy is a hooker.

And I thought this was interesting...

I’ve been paid for sex by a 60 yo man when i was 19 yo. It was fun. I enjoy remembering these magical moments.

Everyone seems to have a unique opinion on the topic and I think it's a good example of how diverse the gay community really is.

You can check them all out here.

ISIS Kills More Gay Men

This kind of thing just guts me. While everyone's so worried about Kim Davis and her ridiculous plan to remain in the spotlight for longer than 15 minutes, this nightmare has been happening.

Islamic State (ISIS) militants executed four more gay men in Iraq over the weekend.

Two young men were thrown off the roof a building in Mosul under the pretext they were a gay couple.

‘On Sunday afternoon, Daesh called on the people of Mosul to gather in the square of Bab al-Toub in order to witness the execution of the two allegedly men,’ an eyewitness told ARA News.
‘The victims were taken to the top of a building and were brutally thrown off the roof.’

There's more about that here.   What I'd like to know is why aren't we hearing more about this everywhere?!?

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Monday, October 5, 2015

Boston Globe GlobeDocs Film Festival: The State of Marriage; Gay For Pay Speaks Out; World's Most Eligible Bisexual Bachelor

Boston Globe GlobeDocs Film Festival: The State of Marriage

Here's something that producer, Jeff Kaufman, of same sex marriage documentary, The State of Marriage, sent me the other day. They're going to be screening The State of Marriage at the Boston Globe GlobeDocs Film Festival this month. I'm part of the film. It's all here on the blog with a simple search above. Ironically, we're doing another road trip up to Vermont later this month to check things out in the fall. So if anyone in the Boston area is interested, here you go.

From my inbox:

Our documentary THE STATE OF MARRIAGE is showing Saturday, October 10 at 2:00pm at the first annual Boston Globe GlobeDocs Film Festival. I hope you, and/or folks you know in the Boston area, can join us. The Hollywood Reporter said, “THE STATE OF MARRIAGE is an indispensable addition to the history of the marriage equality movement. This is a fascinating story and a suspenseful nail-biter right up to the feel good ending.”

Boston Globe GlobeDocs Film Festival
THE STATE OF MARRIAGE - Saturday, October 10 at 2:00pm 
Bright Family Screening Room in the Paramount Theater 
559 Washington St., Boston
After screening Q&A with Director / Producer Jeff Kaufman, Producer Marcia Ross, and Vickie Henry, Senior Staff Attorney at Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD)

Tickets and More info: www.bostonglobe.com/globedocs

Gay For Pay Speaks Out

Here's an article that talks about what it's like to be gay for pay. It's another one of those meme things I'm always linking to. I like them, and they sound honest enough. It seems like a comfortable way for guys to speak freely and anonymously without being targeted.

Here's one quote:

I'm a guy that models shirtless for gay guys online, and I get paid very well for it. No, I'm not gay, no, knowing that a guy is jerking off to me doesn't bother me. Money is money.

And here's another...

I'm straight and I became a male stripper at a gay club because I wanted to get over how shy I was. If you can get naked in front of a lot of people you can handle small talk.

I know that sounds a little odd, but I actually believe him.

There are plenty of comments, too.

World's Most Eligible Bisexual Bachelor

For those of you who are looking to secure a stable financial future with a wealthy dad, this might interest you.

Stein Erik Hagen (pictured) is one of Norway’s top businessmen. The 59-year-old executive owns multiple companies in everything from commercial real estate to e-commerce. He’s worth an estimated $4.3 billion, making him the second richest person in Norway.
Oh, and did we mention he likes guys?

And there's that. You can check it out here.  

Evidently, this guy being a billionaire makes him special.

I think it brings up an interesting question. Would you...could you...marry someone for money? I don't think I could. And, I wouldn't want anyone marrying me just for money. It's kind of sad when you think about it.

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Saturday, October 3, 2015

Pope Meets Same Sex Couple; Gay Men Wearing Pink Ribbons; Tells Girlfriend All Guys Have Grindr On Their Phones

Pope Meets Same Sex Couple

I try to be objective...as often as I can here. So I figured I would post something more positive about Pope Francis. And rightly so.  It's very newsworthy, considering all the press last week about the Pope and THAT woman. I don't like the way the press has been using all this as clickbait either.

Yayo Grassi, an openly gay man, brought his partner, Iwan Bagus, as well several other friends to the Vatican Embassy on September 23 for a brief visit with the Pope. A video of the meeting shows Grassi and Francis greeting each other with a warm hug. 

In an exclusive interview with CNN, Grassi said the visit was arranged personally with the Pope via email in the weeks ahead of Francis' highly anticipated visit to the United States

Gay Men Wearing Pink Ribbons

I'm all for it...gay men and all men wearing pink  ribbons to support women with breast cancer. I also know men can get breast cancer. I know one man who did get it. 

Yet the voices of many gay men are notably absent in this conversation. When it comes to health issues, gay men overhelmingly support HIV organizations with their time and money. And rightfully so. The HIV epidemic is not over, and the virus still disproprotionately affects this demographic.

The only thing about articles like this that bother me is that we all become connected to cancer in one form or another during our lifetimes. Tony and I support breast cancer because family members have fought the fight and it's hit us personally. However, we've also been closely involved with family members (and friends) who had pancreatic cancer and you rarely see anything about that anywhere. There is no cure for that. They are still using the same drugs they used ten years ago. The most curative approach is The Whipple procedure and that usually just buys people extra time here on earth. 

So I think that everyone should support what they feel the strongest about, not what someone else tells them to support. Supporting something you truly believe in has nothing to do with becoming part of a conversation.

Tells Girlfriend All Guys Have Grindr On Their Phones

Here's yet another story about a young woman who asked her boyfriend why he has a Grindr app on his phone. Because he's "straight."

“So the other day I found out that my boyfriend of like four years had downloaded Grindr (shamefully I was looking through his phone). He didn’t have a profile or anything but I confronted him and he told me that he looked as a joke and that all guys look up weird stuff like this. He said it was “just to see what the app was like” but that he is not gay or curious in any way.
Is the whole ‘all guys look at it’ thing true, should I trust him, or should I try to talk to him more about it? Kind of freaking out and really confused.”
The article goes on to show some of the replies people made to her. You can read them here.

Personally, I think the guy is innocent. If he were hiding anything he wouldn't have the app on his phone in the first place. Most closeted guys are more careful about those things than Hillary was with her e-mails. They don't normally take chances like that. They're too terrified of being discovered.

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Friday, October 2, 2015

Her Friend's Husband On Grindr; Man Kidnapped By Craigslist Trick; Pat Robertson Thinks Gays Are Vindictive

Her Friend's Husband On Grindr

This all comes in the form of a letter to some advice columnist I've never heard of. A woman found out her friend's husband was on Grindr. She's asking for advice on how to handle it.

“My friend ‘Marissa’ and I have known each other for over 15 years,” the friend writes. “About five years ago, she started dating this guy, ‘Tom.’ I never particularly cared for him. He knows how close Marissa and I are, yet Tom never made any effort to get to know me. I also got the sense he was gay.”

Eventually, Marissa and Tom were married. And now, it turns out the friend’s gaydar may have been accurate.

“Last night, Marissa’s little sister called me to tell me that one her friends had found Tom on Grindr,” the woman writes. “I don’t know what to do. I know I have to tell Marissa, but how?”

You can read the rest here.  

It's kind of interesting to see how straight people react to things like this. She's "completely devastated for her."

Man Kidnapped by Craigslist Trick

For some who might not know, a "trick" is a hook up...a one night stand or a quickie in a cruising area. I don't hear the term used very often anymore. I've never used it much.   

A guy in Australia allegedly met another guy on Craigslist and he was kidnapped and threatened with castration.

According to court documents, the victim picked up Hall in his car at around 12:30 a.m. on January 25. After getting into the vehicle, Hall directed him to drive to a nearby dock and park under a broken streetlamp. And that’s when things took a dark turn.

It gets much worse. One more piece of evidence that you can't trust anything, anywhere when it comes to meeting people online. 

The rest is here.    

Pat Robertson Thinks Gays Are Vindictive

Here's an article where Pat Robertson spews more gay hate, and he doesn't even really know any gay people. If he did, he wouldn't say things like this. 

After acknowledging the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling in favor of same-sex marriage, Robertson went on a tirade about how “they don’t want to stop there.”

“It is vindictive now. We’re not talking about having rights from the poor, oppressed gays, we’re talking about taking away the freedoms of everybody who disagrees with them,” Robertson stated.

I don't fully understand what "freedoms" he's talking about. Did someone tell Kim Davis she can't wear those Mother Hubbard dresses anymore?

You can read the rest of this here. 

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FREE Gay Books; Signing Off On Pope Francis; Gay Teen's Tenacity

FREE Gay Books

When I say I'm not great at promotion, here's a good example.

Yesterday I posted about book sales and freebies and I actually forgot to list one of the books that is for free. I'll rectify that right now. Also, I got the dates wrong. Not by much, but they're wrong.

So here are the correct dates. I give the go ahead for freebies and promos, but I don't actually set these things up. My tech person does and I follow directions...as best I can.

 The Rainbow Detective Agency Box Set...It's the first four books in the series in one digital box set...four books in one. There is a new one coming out this month and I'm working on another right now. This will be discounted to $4.99 from October 1 to the 5th for non KU members. It's also FREE with Kindle Unlimited (KU).

Meadows Are Not Forever...This one is a full length gay romance novel that is free with Kindle Unlimited and will be FREE for everyone else from October 1 to the 5th.

The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance...I'm working on putting this on up for free all the time. Right now it is for free until the 5th...for everyone. I'll post more on the future of this one. 

Signing Off On Pope Francis

Update: As expected by many, there's a new twist to the story of Pope Francis meeting that woman. From Towerload...
“The Pope did not enter into the details of the situation of Mrs. Davis and his meeting with her should not be considered a form of support of her position in all of its particular and complex aspects,” Lombardi said in a statement….

I'm not certain we'll ever get the real story. 


I feel terrible for the people who have been hurt and disappointed by Pope Francis. It's so bad that still, even yesterday, gay people I know were doubting whether or not the Pope actually met with Kim Davis in secret. They obviously didn't believe the NYT and every other reputable news agency and they wanted MORE proof...as if the Vatican will come out and give a press conference.

Or, they just don't want to believe it.

It's just sad to read things like this and my heart really does go out to anyone who just found out what I found out about the Catholic Church years ago.

By choosing to meet with Kim Davis, the reigning pin-up queen of homophobia, Pope Francis has sent the clearest possible signal about where he stands when it comes to LGBT rights. In doing so, he vaporized the good will that he generated during his visit to the U.S. last week. As turns out, all those friendly-sounding statements were little more than a distraction from the Vatican’s hard-core disapproval of all things gay.

More Here.  

It's a good piece with many excellent comments. Basically, a lot of people are signing off on Pope Francis after his secret meeting with Kim Davis. As well they should.

Gay Tenacity In the Face of Struggle

Here's something the good old Pope should read. It's a story about how a gay teen turned his life around in one year after he was thrown out of his house for being gay.

I'm sure I posted about it when it happened. It's nice to see a positive follow up for a change.

In August of last year, two of the world’s worst parents were caught on camera physically assaulting their gay son, just moments after banishing him from their home over what they believed to be his “chosen” and “ungodly” sexuality.

The story goes on to talk about how he raised money through crowdfunding and survived on his own, and then gave some of that money to others who needed it as much as he did.

A very touching story, Pope Francis, about survival and gay tenacity. You can read more here. 

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Thursday, October 1, 2015

FREE Gay Books; Kim Davis and Good Old Pope Francis on Dark Pope Wednesday; Philly City Paper Shutters Print; James Dean's Last Day

FREE Gay Books

This part of today's post is basically a repeat of the first part of yesterday's post, but I often fall short when it comes to these things and I'm trying to get better at it. I truly admire those people out there on social media who can constantly, relentlessly self-promote, with five or six selfies a day. I'm working on it.

This sale and these freebies run from now until October 8th. 

The Rainbow Detective Agency Box Set...It's the first four books in the series in one digital box set...four books in one. There is a new one coming out this month and I'm working on another right now. This will be discounted to $4.99 from October 1 to the 8th for non KU members. It's also FREE with Kindle Unlimited (KU).

Meadows Are Not Forever...This one is a full length gay romance novel that is free with Kindle Unlimited and will be FREE for everyone else from October 1 to the 8th.

Kim Davis and Good Old Pope Francis

I'm starting to think we'll never hear the end of Kim Davis news. Thanks to good old Pope Francis, she's back in the headlines because Pope Francis set up a secret meeting with her in Washington this past week to let her know how much he's supporting her stand on homophobia, gay hate, inequality, and discrimination.

“He told me, before he left, he said ‘stay strong,'” Davis recounted to ABC News, “and that was a great encouragement just knowing that the Pope is on track with what we’re doing, and agreeing. It kind of validates everything.”

So far this announcement has caused outrage and a great deal of disappointment all over the world. I'm not too shocked about this. I expect if from the Pope. But watching the disappointment I see with other people absolutely guts me. Blogging is usually cathartic for me, however, this time I don't feel any better about posting this news than I did when I first heard it.

We should name yesterday in gay culture and gay history as "Dark Pope Wednesday."

You can read the rest here. 

James Dean's Last Day

In college I took many extra electives in the film history department and several of the courses focused on James Dean. I've always been fascinated by him. Here's something about retracing his last day on earth. 

Queerty’s managing editor Jeremy Kinser and filmmaker Heath Daniels met at a fancy-ish soiree in the hills above Hollywood three years ago and became instant pals when they realized they had a lot in common (some things that can’t be shared here), including a strong, nearly lifelong affinity for Dean. The two recently decided to recreate the actor’s final day as accurately as possible and took photos of all the major stops along the way.

You can check that out here, with photos.  I think the 1950's and 60's in Hollywood, in general, are interesting.

Kim Davis Musical Parody

La Strega Entertainment recently released a musical parody of Kim Davis. It's both poignant and funny because it mainly points out extremism in the worse degree. And how carried away some people can get. Even though it's meant to be funny, which it is, there's also a certain amount of sadness, too.

Rena Strober stars as Davis in “The Modern Fundamentalist,” a three-minute music video, informed by a certain Gilbert and Sullivan standard, about the thrive-divorced antigay county clerk who has been dominating national headlines for the past month and counting.

“I am the very model of a modern fundamentalist,” Strober croons in a thick hillbilly accent. “I’m not merely judgmental, I’m the absolute judgmentalest!”

You can watch the video here.  

Philly City Paper Shutters Print

Here's something for those of you who think print is going to stick around. Philadelphia City Paper just announced it will be shutting down print operations.

City Paper, Philadelphia’s feisty alternative weekly newspaper, will cease its print publication as of Oct. 8.

News of the prize-winning paper’s demise came as a surprise this afternoon to the publication’s editors and staff writers.

“Our Web traffic has been steadily increasing and we’ve been doing good work,” said City Paper senior staff writer Emily Guendelsberger.  “But I didn’t see this coming at all.”

The rest is here.  That's how it happens...overnight.

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Wednesday, September 30, 2015

October FREE Gay Book and Sales Ryan Field; The Pope and Kim Davis; Matt Damon Gay Damage Control; Closted Married Men Going To Counselors

October Book Sales Ryan Field

This month I'm doing a few freebies and sales with books, one of which will be offered for free for everyone, and one which will be offered at a discount for non KU members and free to KU members.

Here are the books and links.

The Rainbow Detective Agency Box Set...It's the first four books in the series in one digital box set. There is a new one coming out this month and I'm working on another right now. This will be discounted to $4.99 from October 1 to the 8th for non KU members. It's also FREE with Kindle Unlimited (KU).

Meadows Are Not Forever...This one is a full length gay romance novel that is free with Kindle Unlimited and will be FREE for everyone else from October 1 to the 8th. This book is close to me for several reasons, one of which is that one man reviewed it, contacted me about the review, and he really "got" what I was trying to do. This book is not erotic romance. It's romance. And the central theme is that gay men don't always have to have sex to get romance. You all know I'm no prude, but sometimes a story needs no sex to come across the way it should. I also think it's a dilemma most gay men have faced at least once in their lives.

The Pope and Kim Davis

Update: Here's a link to the NYT. Evidently, the Vatican has confirmed that Davis did meet with the Pope. 
On Wednesday, the Vatican spokesman, the Rev. Federico Lombardi, confirmed that the meeting took place, but he declined to elaborate. “I do not deny that the meeting took place, but I have no other comments to add,” he said.

I hate posting anything about Kim Davis again but this was just too interesting to pass up. Now she's claiming she had a private meeting with the Pope while he was in Washington. So far the Vatican isn't saying anything definitive, but the Pope did say he supported Davis's right not to hand out marriage licenses while on his way back to the Vatican.

Offering no comment on the previously unannounced meeting, the Vatican would neither confirm nor deny that it took place.

"I never thought I would meet the Pope," Davis said via her legal team. "Who am I to have this rare opportunity? I am just a County Clerk who loves Jesus and desires with all my heart to serve him."

The meeting is said to have occurred last Thursday, the same day Francis addressed Congress. Davis was in Washington for another purpose: She received a Cost of Discipleship award at the Family Research Council's Values Voter Summit on Friday night.

You can read the rest here. It's a link to NPR and they're usually reliable. 

What I find most interesting is that this was all allegedly planned weeks ago by the Vatican and the entire time the Pope was here in the US it was never once mentioned. So indirectly, the Pope lied by not disclosing this to the public, up front, like the sex abuse scandals. If this meeting did take place and if what Kim Davis claims is true, it was a cover up.

In any event, I expect this type of thing from the Pope anyway, so I'm not all that surprised or upset about it.

Matt Damon Gay Damage Control

Judge Judy has a saying that goes like this:

"Don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining."

That's what came to mind when I read this. 

After articles and posts came out about Matt Damon allegedly stating that gay actors should probably keep their sexuality to themselves because it's better for their careers, Damon went on the Ellen show and clarified what he said. He claims his quotes were taken out of context.

The Ellen Show was a last minute booking. (They think we don't know.) 

“I was just trying to say actors are more effective when they’re a mystery, right?” he clarified. “And somebody picked it up and said I said gay actors should get back in the closet. Which is like, I mean it’s stupid, but it is painful when things get said that you don’t believe. You know what I mean? And then it gets represented that that’s what you believe.”

He blamed bloggers, as usual.

He then pointed a finger at the “blogosphere,” saying, “There’s no real penalty for just taking the ball and running with it. You know what I mean? You’re just trying to click on your thing.”

Evidently, there's no real penalty for dropping the ball either.

You can read the rest here.    

Closeted Married Men Are Going To Counselors

This article brings up the topic of cheating spouses and it mentions closeted gay men who are sneaking around on their wives with other men they meet online. It sounds as if the entire free world is out there having all this hot sex fun while the rest of us are missing the proverbial party.

A sexologist in Winter Park, FL says he could “literally work 24 hours a day, seven days a week” because of all the people cheating on their significant others thanks to websites like Craigslist and Ashley Madison.

 “The volume is that great,” Michael Rothenberg, sexologist and owner of onlinesexualaddiction.com, tells the Orlando Sentinel. “It’s becoming easier and easier to find a sexual partner.”

You can read the rest here. I'm not sure how to speculate on this one. I don't have a Grindr account and I didn't even know what Ashley Madison was until the Christian Josh Duggar incident. Oh, and surprise, I'm married.

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