Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Naked Barber: Dick; Gay/Straight Big Brother 16; Facebook Anti-Gay Donation; Cage James by Ryan Field

Naked Barber: Dick

There's a bright hair stylist in Australia who seems to have caught on to something: naked barbering. And, his name is Dick. From what I gather, Dick will not only cut and style hair, he'll shave other body parts for you wearing nothing but a jock strap. Some women go in weekly to have their hair blown out by Dick. Some men get a weekly scrotum shave.

Every day, men enter his studio and get completely naked. They climb into a harness, spread their legs wide open, and have their bungholes professionally manicured by the award-winning professional.

Savvy says the scrotum shave is his “most popular and erotic service,” sought by men both gay and straight.

“I’ve shaved straight guys’ balls before,” Saavy explains. “Straight guys who are really comfortable … they don’t give a shit. They’ll get their balls shaved. They know there’s nothing to it.”

They're filming a documentary about him, and his customers just rave.

 “At this very moment Richard is shaving my balls and the end of my dick,” the customer says. “It’s an amazing feeling … The sensation of having someone else do it… is quite arousing.”

You can read more here. He credits his "mum" for his success and for teaching him about spirituality in order to prepare him for all this.

Gay/Straight Big Brother 16

I've posted about this all summer and now I have video proof. This article talks about how things have been either gay, straight, or whatever with some of the house guests on Big Brother 16. Frankie Grande, brother of singer Ariana Grande, is openly gay and adorable. He's been having a "bromance" with straight guy, Zach Rance, and flirting with just about every straight guy in the house this summer. And he's been getting responses that are interesting.

You can follow this link to several videos where they show how it's all happening. I have been watching regularly and I can't figure out whether they're gay baiting, just having fun, or really serious about what's happening. It's a game and in this case you can never be sure about anything that happens. These people are interested in one thing: winning the money.

As well they should be.

Sexual tensions reached a fever pitch in the house this week as live feed viewers were treated to an impromptu (and fully clothed, ugh) simulated threesome in the HOH bedroom. Watch in awe as houseguests Caleb Reynolds and Cody Calafiore make America’s gay dreams come true:

Facebook Anti-Gay Donation

You know how we're always hearing about Facebook being anti-gay because of the reports and blocks of gay content, and then Facebook deletes an LGBT profile page without even giving the user advanced warning? They did it to Del Shores this year and he made a huge deal out of it, which prompted Facebook's caring concerned reply that it was a mistake and they are not anti-gay. So this next link about Facebook donating money to an openly anti-gay politician makes you wonder just where they stand. Frankly, in this day and age when nothing is private anymore (thanks, in part, to Facebook) we all fall victim to guilt by association. Facebook is NOT immune to this.

Earlier this week, Q Salt Lake reported that Facebook, Inc. donated $10,000 to the campaign of Attorney General Sean Reyes on May 13, 2014, according to disclosures filed with the Utah Lieutenant Governor’s office.

Reyes recently made national headlines by fighting a court ruling that would legalize gay marriage in the state.

Here's Facebook's Reply:

Facebook has a strong record on LGBT issues and that will not change, but we make decisions about which candidates to support based on the entire portfolio of issues important to our business, not just one. A contribution to a candidate does not mean that we agree with every policy or position that candidate takes. We made this donation for the same reason we’ve donated to Attorneys General on the opposite side of this issue — because they are committed to fostering innovation and an open Internet.

It's typical of all their replies to anything LGBT related, and if you notice they make no bold statement about supporting gays.

It begs the question: just how far can you go these days with a spin? In Facebook's case, for gays this isn't about politics, money, or business for us. It's about the basic core of our existence. And you don't see people who actually support gay rights donating money to those who are fighting against gay rights. To reply that there's nothing personal about donating money like this makes no sense, and if it doesn't make sense the odds as it's not true.

Maybe it's time someone started an LGBTI friendly global social network and copied Facebook as much as it's legally possible to do.

Cage James

.99 E-BOOK By Ryan Field


Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Erotic Cuban Men; Prison Themed Pride Party Slammed; Boner Photos; Gay Republican Poll

Erotic Cuban Men

There's a highly artistic photo series of Cuban men by Kobi Israel titled, Love Stories, Cuba. Israel is referring to it as a "visual travelogue," and says this:

“I explored notions of the macho and the masculine/militant versus the homoerotic in revolutionary Cuba,” Israel explains, describing photography as “detective work” to “explore the subconsciousness of emotional and philosophical queries.”

Israel took the time to get to know each subject personally.

You can read more here and see some of the images created. The only way I can describe them is that they are different from what you normally see in the sense that the environments in which they're photographed are almost as significant at the models themselves.

If you appreciate men, and the male form as art, this one is for you.

Prison Themed Pride Party

This next link is interesting because it actually calls attention to the PC police in the very beginning, and in a very snarky way. is allegedly being slammed for planning a party for gay men, about gay men, for gay men to enjoy, with a prison fantasy theme. In other words, it's a small part of what is and always has been gay culture. I thought I should make that point clear, being that so many don't seem to think gay men deserve a culture anymore. What's even more interesting is that not only are we fighting for equality with the most conservative, we're also fighting for our identities with the most liberal. It's an interesting place to be sometimes.

In short, the party is being called Prison of Love and it's going to be held at an armory in San Francisco during pride. SF Pride has absolutely nothing to do with the event. It's a private affair.  

Get incarcerated as The Armory Drill Court gets transformed into the world’s largest megaclub prison yard with thundering line array sound, full color lasers, hundreds of intelligent lights, moving truss, 3D-LED video walls, and the world famous production and performances of WE Party,, Club Universe, Masterbeat, FRESH SF and XOXO … Grab your spot on the bunkbed and party in the prison yard with hot inmates, guards, bad boys, bitches, and muscle boys! General Admission tickets include access to the main event area and WE Party Prison of Love. Bring a cellmate, share the love!

In spite of the fact that this is a private party, it didn't stop a few activists from trying to ruin the fun/fantasy event from being held, including one writer at the never-ending online PC Police Station, Jezebel. This one tweeted:

Given the rates of incarceration amongst the LGBT+ community, specifically LGBT+ youth and LGBT+ individuals of color, this seems… well, like a really, really bad idea. Insensitive you might even say. Perhaps my favorite word of all: problematic.

Some have even gone so far as to say it glorifies prison rape. That's right. Like we don't know the difference between reality and fantasy and we need someone to point this out. CEO Peter Acworth replied with civility and reason. And, he's agreed to tone down the marketing, which reminds me of this PC incident that happened recently within the m/m romance community about the way something was being marketed. In this case as well, it was fantasy, not reality. But some from the PC crowd didn't like the marketing approach. This is also the same crowd that often practices the most offensive passive aggressive homophobia toward gay men (always gay men) I've seen anywhere on the Internet. But I digress.

You can read more here. The comments are, as usual, worth reading to see how some of the gay men feel about this.

Boner Display

I'm sure the PC police are loving this one. Vice online magazine has a photo series of boners...hard ones. But they seem to be SFW because you can't really see's boner through pants, so to speak, not nude. Kind of crotch-watching of sorts.

The anonymous and visibly aroused models are styled to represent a number of different dudes, from “The Skater” to “The Stoner,” “The Businessman” to “The Pool Boy,” and every “Boy Next Door” and “Boyfriend” in between. If you want to fall asleep reading how HuffPo thinks this is some scientific statement about and “male gaze,” or how Jezebel thinks this is about “female desire,” go ahead and click those links.

You can view some bone through pants here.

This is actually another photo series by Claire Milbrath and styled by Mila Franovic, titled, Groin Gazing.

You don't want to miss the comments.

Gay Republican Poll

I posted about how the GOP is trying to promote politicians this fall who support gay rights earlier this week, and this next link talks about a poll taken that claims Republicans would vote for a gay candidate but would rather not have anyone in their family come gay. I'm not sure I understand the reasoning.

However almost as many would be upset if they found out their own child was gay or lesbian, with 37% saying they would be ‘upset’ and 23% saying they would be ‘very upset.’

There are other statistics as interesting in the short piece, and you can read them here.

We obviously still have a long way to go.


The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field


Monday, August 18, 2014

Gay Christian Rock Star; GOP super PAC Gay Rights; Pregnant Man; Most Transphobic Article Ever;

Gay Christian Rock Star

A gay Christian rock star who recently came out claims she tried all kinds of outrageous things to help cure her of being gay. When you read about some of the hell she put herself through because she thought she was a sinner, you'll sit there gaping. However, as extreme as this is, I think we can all relate to this in one way or another. If there's one thing I've never seen it's a gay man or woman who came out with a great big smile and said, "That was so easy."

It was torture.

Now, Christian musician Vicky Beeching wants her fans to know the truth about who she really is—and perhaps, inspire some to reexamine their convictions.

“I’m gay,” the songstress said. “What Jesus taught was a radical message of welcome and inclusion and love. I feel certain God loves me just the way I am.”

This is the type of thing I've been hoping to see happen. Trust me on this, she's not the only gay Christian and I have feeling we'll be hearing about a lot more in the future.

You can read more here.

 GOP super PAC Gay Rights

Although I've never been political, as a long time blogger I find these things interesting from a human interest POV. Especially these days where I see so much hate coming from both sides of the political spectrum on social media...and it's not always about LBGTI issues. So when I see an article like this one, a piece that talks about how there's a GOP super PAC spending time and money to help gay rights issues move forward, I think it's not only important to post about it as information, but also interesting to examine from a cultural POV. I hear a lot of talk about breaking gay stereotypes and this one sure does it.

 A Republican group tied to hedge fund billionaire Paul Singer plans to spend at least $2 million up to Election Day to boost congressional candidates who share its views in favor of gay rights.

This is interesting, too.

"For many years, there's been a huge fear from Republican elected officials that if they showed courage on issues like this, would they be able to survive politically?" Cook-McCormac said.

"What American Unity PAC is committed to doing is ensuring that as these courageous elected officials follow their conscience and do the right thing, that there is a political network in place that's there to defend them."

As I said, I'm not very political and I don't know where something like this will lead. But I'm not all that shocked to read about it either. I know more than a few LGBTI Republicans...all closeted Republicans (out as gays) and terrified to actually admit it aloud for fear of the backlash they might have to deal with from others in the LGBTI community.

Not only are we living in interesting times, the times continue to change when we least expect them to.

You can read more here. Are they using us...the gay vote? I'm not sure about that yet. Breaking stereotypes about the gay vote hasn't been discussed anywhere yet as far as I know.

Pregnant Man

The world's first pregnant man is now allowed to divorce his wife. Prior to that, another ruling stated he was in a same sex marriage and couldn't file for divorce. A judge stated that because he was a trans man and able to give birth he was in a same sex union, which are banned in Arizona.

Then this happened:

However, a three-judge panel of the Arizona Court of Appeals overturned the decision, concluding that Beatie’s marriage was not a same-sex union and is thus considered valid in the state.
David Michael Cantor, Beatie’s attorney, welcomed the decision, saying: ’The state of Arizona has officially recognised him as a man and that his marriage was valid, and because his marriage was valid, his kids were born in wedlock, which is important to him.

You can read more here. He obviously identifies as a man, and lives his life as a man. Good for him. But I'm now wondering if this means that all trans people who marry non-trans people of the opposite sex will be considered legally married? Feel free to comment on this one...or e-mail me in private.

Most Transphobic Article Ever

I hate to see that transgender people are having such hard times these days, but I'm also glad these issues are at least making news. Up until recently, anything trans related would have been ignored...or at best, buried. In this case the link is talking about Gavin McInnes and his alleged transphobic article pubbed on Thought Catalogue.

McInnes, who also co-founded online magazine Vice, wrote a piece entitled ‘Transphobia is Perfectly Natural’, in which he justifies bigotry against the trans community by claiming tolerance is ‘sexist, misandrist, homophobic, and further damages the lives of the mentally ill.’

 In the article, he says: ‘Of course it’s fucking unusual. We’re all transphobic… They are mentally ill gays who need help, and that help doesn’t include being maimed by physicians. These aren’t women trapped in a man’s body. They are nuts trapped in a crazy person’s body.

You can read more here. The article is being referred to as the most transphobic piece ever written. It's probably one of the worst I've ever seen, and I've seen a lot from more than one wing nut like McInnes. I hope no one pays attention to him.

As a result, McInnes has left Rooster in what's being called an indefinite leave of absence.

The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Gay Brady Dad Robert Reed; Bathhouse Bust; James Arthur Anti-Gay Mixtape

Gay Brady Dad Robert Reed
I remember being a little shocked when it was disclosed that the actor who played the dad on the retro TV show, The Brady Bunch, was gay in real life. Looking at reruns now, I think Robert Reed should get one of those lifetime acting achievement awards, posthumously. He had us all fooled.

This is from wiki:

After his death, Reed's Brady Bunch co-stars — most notably Barry Williams and Florence Henderson — publicly acknowledged Reed's sexual orientation, and admitted that most of the cast and crew of The Brady Bunch were aware, but they did not discuss it with Reed. Barry Williams said, "Robert didn't want to go there. I don't think he talked about it with anyone. I just don't think it was a discussion – period."
One of the kids on the show recently stated that he thought of Reed as more of a father figure than his own dad.
Reed died in 1992 at the age of 59 and Knight told HuffPost Live this week that he 'was as good or better a father figure than my own dad.'

He also called the late actor his 'personal hero.'

'I learned very early that if that was what gay was, it has no measure in the ability of somebody to be a fine representation of a good human being,' Knight said.

You can read more here. I'd almost forgotten about Robert Reed and I'm going to look for more information about him for a future post. In many ways, he's the epitome of the classic Hollywood gay lie that's still happening now in some cases because gay men just can't take the chance of coming out. In some cases, it would ruin them and their careers.

Reed died in 1992 of colon cancer. But it was disclosed he was HIV positive, which allegedly contributed to his death.

Bathhouse Bust

In Beirut, police have raided a bathhouse and those arrested could be dealing with a prison sentence...or worse.

The raid of the Shehrazad Hammam or ‘Turkish bath’ in Burj Hammoud, a Christian suburb of Beirut, took place around noon yesterday.

It comes after a raid on Saturday (9 August) on the Agha Hammam baths where 27 people were arrested. They have now been charged with homosexuality and could be jailed.

I think bathhouses in general, at least here in the US, have dwindled down a bit since the 1970's and 80's. I remember hearing how many were closing down during the height of the AIDS epidemic. In the late 90's they started to resurface again, but as "health clubs" and "gyms." One thing about bathhouses here, or anywhere else in the world, is that they always have to deal with raids. For some reason, the police can't wait to raid the gays. The worst part about all this is that at one time places like bathhouses were a viable way for gay men to meet each other.

Like it or not, it's a distinct part of the culture. I've never actually been to one.

More here.

James Arthur Anti-Gay Mixtape

I posted about this before.  Singer, James Arthur, who won UK X Factor released a rap mixtape with homophobic slurs and at the time Simon Cowell dropped him from the label. He's evidently been trying for a comeback without much success.

There were plans for him to appear on rapper Professor Green’s forthcoming album.

But then, after Arthur released a diss track laden with homophobic slurs including ‘You fucking queer’, he was removed from the record.
You can read more here, with more comments from Simon Cowell.
Frankly, I can't understand what would motivate a young singer with a new career to release anything that controversial. Do they really think they can't be replaced?
The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field


Saturday, August 16, 2014

No Gay Sex: George R.R. Martin; Sex Culture: Queer as Folk; Gay Texting: Mike Alvear

No Gay Sex: George R. R. Martin

George R.R. Martin, author of A Song of Ice and Fire, which is the book series upon which Game of Thrones is based, was asked why his books don't have any gay sex scenes even though they are filled with straight sex scenes. His reply is actually about as professional as it gets. He writes each chapter from one character's POV in the first person and he claims none of these characters are gay and it wouldn't work for that reason.

"I'm not going to do it just for the sake of doing it. If the plot lends itself to that — if one of my viewpoint characters is in a situation, then I'm not going to shy away from it — but you can't just insert things because everyone wants to see them."

Fans have written him about having more m/m sex scenes.

"It is not a democracy. If it was a democracy, then Joffrey would have died much earlier than he did."

I don't follow his books or Game of Thrones, so I can't comment on the content at all. But the article to which I'm linking isn't too thrilled with his answer. And I take exception to this. As a gay writer who often writes novels where each chapter has a character with a different POV, I find that I have to remain true to the character.

But more than that, in my books I don't see how writing straight sex scenes into any storyline I've ever written would help the book or move the story forward. And that's what sex scenes are supposed to...add to the story and/or move the story forward. Frankly, I don't even like the fact that a author of this article is asked Martin a question like this. It also shows how little this author knows about writing.

I find Martin's answer plausible and honest and genuine. You don't just write gay sex scenes for the sake of doing it, especially during a time when too many are already gay baiting, exploiting gays, and using gay content for monetary gain.

You can read the rest of the article here.

Sex Culture: Queer as Folk

Russell T. Davies who created the UK Queer as Folk is planning to do a new show called Tofu. It's about sex culture and the premise sounds interesting.

Russell T. Davies, who penned the original British installment of "Queer as Folk," has announced plans for "Tofu," an eight-part series about modern sex culture, according to The Independent.

On Red Productions' website, director Benjamin Cook describes "Tofu" as a "light-hearted documentary series" about "good sex, bad sex, real-life sex. Smut, basically."

I remember watching the US version of Queer as Folk and liking it when it first came out. But then I watched the UK version and absolutely loved it. It's hard to compare the two. They were both good and came around at just the right time in gay culture because gay men were desperate for it. Up until then, we had nothing but dark depressing stories. And there's nothing wrong with dark depressing stories, but a little fun is okay, too.

You can read more here.

Gay Texting: Mike Alvear

I see articles all the time and pass on them because they are so stupid. But sometimes I come across one that is so colossally idiotic I can't pass on it for that very reason...idiotic because it's funny. In this case it's a piece by someone named Mike Alvear. I think he's being funny. I hope he's being funny. I can't imagine anyone taking this seriously because this stuff is so funny...and even a little warped.

Get this:

Of course, it isn't you he's testing; it's your typing. Do your texts make him laugh or reach for the Rolaids? You are constantly being assessed by the content of your texts (just as you're assessing his). In fact, your texts are pretty much your defining characteristic until you talk on the phone or hang out somewhere real.

Now THAT'S the kind of pressure we all want to hear in an already stressful situation.

But it gets better. He suggests you have pre-made, go-to texts for every occasion. In the article to which I'm linking he only gives a few examples, but there's a link there where I found a few more.

I got kicked out of Barns and Nobles cuz i put all the bibles in the fiction section.

“Lose 5 Pounds in 5 days”. My upbeat view of abortion

I'm going to state the obvious again...I think. It's supposed to be funny...I think. Unfortunately, someone who left a comment didn't get the joke...which, of course, made it even funnier.

You can read more here.

The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field

Friday, August 15, 2014

FREE Excerpt/New Release: Sheriff and the Outlaw by Ryan Field

FREE Excerpt/New Release: Sheriff and the Outlaw by Ryan Field

Here's the next installment of the Glendora Hill gay western series, "The Sheriff and the Outlaw." It's a stand alone book that doesn't have to be read consecutively with the rest of the series, but it does return the general storyline back to the first time the main characters met and fell in love. In some ways this could have been the first book, but we thought it would be interesting to create a book in the series that told more of the back story, with more detailed history about the main characters, Sebastian and Avery.

You can find it here, and here on allromanceebooks.  I'll keep posting links in future posts as I get them. As always, the book will be up on the publisher's web site, and distributed in most places where e-books are sold. It's $4.99 at the publisher's web site, which is important to remember.


When Sebastian loses his wonderful husband of ten years in an accident, he’s not only emotionally devastated, but also financially ruined. He can’t turn to family because they turned their backs on him when he told them he was gay, and Sebastian’s late husband owed so much he’s about to lose everything, including the mobile home he spent so many years making perfect. But just when Sebastian thinks there’s no hope at all, he inherits the meager estate of a distant uncle he’s never even met.

The fictional town of picturesque Glendora Hill, Texas appears to be perfect, which is exactly what Sebastian and his teenage son need after all the heartache they’ve gone through. But it’s not going to be easy. And as they begin to make new lives in this odd but friendly little town so far from their lives in Houston, Sebastian stops playing by the rules for a while. That is until the town’s cowboy sheriff, Avery Baldwin, confronts Sebastian about a few rules he’s overlooked.
As Sebastian rebuilds his life and the dilapidated property he inherited, with perfectly pruned shrubbery, a bright white porch swing, and two very strapping young studs he takes in as tenants, he also discovers a few secrets about his past through the one man who seems to understand him. And as the secrets of Sebastian’s childhood unfold and emotions he thought were dead forever begin to reawaken, he’s terrified of the only man who can actually help him move forward.

I always state up front these excerpts are from raw versions and may contain a few issues...they work better with HTML than PDF files, which is why I post them. The final, published book is fully edited. The storyline hasn't changed at all.

As the afternoon unfolded, Sebastian had to go into the garage and dig out one of his uncle’s old folding tables. When people started arriving, it seemed many of them had a covered dish in hand. Jesse Mae from the dry cleaners brought her famous ambrosia, with little marshmallows and pineapple. Erlene from the Country Way Beauty Shop where Angie had her hair permed and teased brought her famous fudge brownies, with walnuts and M&Ms. Sebastian lost track of all the food after Marsha from the Twist and Knit Shop handed him her famous meatballs in tomato sauce. There were enough desserts to fill a bakery in Houston, including a massive tray of Shiva cookies from Elsie Goldberg. Even Kick’s boss, Joe Hennessey, from the hardware store showed up with something. His wife, Dot Hennessey, handed Sebastian a covered baking dish and said, “It’s my famous stuffed mushrooms. Everyone in town will be expecting them.”  

            One of the few who didn’t show up with something to eat was Luanne from the dress shop. And that’s because she seemed to have both hands full with Judd on her arm. She literally clung to the man in a way so obvious Sebastian noticed other people murmuring about her. For a moment, as she walked into the tent area with Judd, the entire room went silent and glanced in her direction. At a closer glance, Sebastian noticed she was probably in her early forties. She wore a bright yellow dress with an empire waist, white vinyl pumps, and boxy looking purse to match. For the first time, Sebastian noticed her heavy make-up and the way all that mascara gave her raccoon eyes. From her long fake yellow fingernails to her teased bleach blond hair, Sebastian thought she would have made an interesting drag queen. In fact, she reminded him of a female impersonator he’d known in Houston named, Miss Demeanor. He wondered if Judd’s attraction to Luanne had anything to do with Judd asking him if he’d ever done drag, as if insinuating he would love to see Sebastian in drag.

            Luanne walked up to Sebastian and flung out her right hand as if she expected him to kiss it. When she saw he had no intention of either kissing her hand or shaking it, she brought her hand back to Judd’s chest, rubbed it, and said, “I’m so sorry we’re late, sugar. Judd and I got busy with something and the time just got away from us. You know how it is when there’s a big strong man around the house.”

            Judd and Sebastian exchanged a quick glance, and Judd seemed embarrassed by her actions and her attitude. But it was apparent that he was afraid to say anything aloud, so Sebastian smiled and said, “Don’t you worry at all, honey pie, sugar. You’re not late at all. And this party is going to go on for the rest of the day.” Then he turned his back on her and went over to check on the band. He’d run into her kind before, and he knew how to handle them.

            It was going on four o’clock in the afternoon and the band still hadn’t started playing. So Sebastian asked why and the drummer told him they were still waiting for the guitar player to arrive. He told Sebastian the guitar player was also the lead singer and they couldn’t start without him unless Sebastian was willing to just have the instrumental, and then he assured Sebastian the guitar player would be there by four o’clock and he’d never missed a performance in his life.

            Sebastian shrugged and moved closer to the buffet table he’d set up for the all the foods other people had brought. He was amazed to see that most of the food was being eaten, including the dishes he’d had catered. And he was even more amused when he overheard some of the comments.

            Angie was standing next to Dot Hennessey’s stuffed mushrooms with Normie Lynn from the bait and tackle shop. As Angie bit into one of the stuffed mushrooms, she made a face and said, “I can’t believe Dot brought his hot mess with her again.” Then she giggled and said, “I wouldn’t feed this to my cat. I’m glad I brought my mac and cheese casserole.”

            Sebastian smiled and moved to the other end of the table where Elsie and Dot Hennessey were talking. They were standing over Angie’s mac and cheese casserole. When Dot Hennessey took a spoonful of mac and cheese, she made a face, giggled, and said, “You could put up wallpaper with this clump of glue she’s trying to pass off as mac and cheese. I’m glad I brought my stuffed mushrooms.”

            Then Elsie waved across the table at Angie and said, “Hey sweetie. We’re loving this mac and cheese. It’s the best one you’ve ever made.”

            Angie waved back and said, “And these are by far the best stuffed mushrooms I’ve ever had, Dot. You’ve outdone yourself this time.”

            “Thanks, hon,” Dot Hennessey said. And then she turned to Elsie and whispered, “Now I have to figure out where to dump this crap.”

            So much for everyone’s famous dishes. And these weren’t the only vicious comments Sebastian overheard as he made his way through the tent. He heard two women talking about how ridiculous the prices were getting at the beauty shop, and then kissing the owner when she walked over to them. He heard two men talking about whether or not unmarried Angie from the sheriff’s office had ever had a man, and snickering about what would happen if she did at this point in her life. But the most interesting thing he overheard by far that afternoon was when he walked up behind a group of women and found them whispering about Luanne from the dress shop. He’d only met them in passing and didn’t remember their names. But what they said made his jaw drop.

            “I wonder if the black widow slaps that big old cowboy around like she did with the last husband,” one woman said.

            “Probably not yet,” another woman said. “She likes to break them in slowly.”

            “She sure does like them big and dumb,” a third woman said. “He’s probably hung like a horse.”

            Sebastian smiled.

            “I just hope that sweet guy finds out about her before it’s too late,” a fourth woman said.

            Then someone else joined them and they changed the subject. Sebastian glanced at his watch and saw it was four o’clock now and the band still hadn’t started playing. He decided to go into the shop to check on Kick and to see if he needed any help. As he crossed through the tent, he couldn’t stop wondering what those women were talking about when they referred to Luanne’s former husband. There was something about her he didn’t trust, and it went far beyond the nasty way she’d treated him earlier.

Daily Gay Sex, Gay Organ Donors; George Takei's Crowdfunding; Gay Dad on Robin Williams; Cage James by Ryan Field

Daily Gay Sex

Just when you think you've heard it all, along comes something like this. Mischa Badasyan claims he's about to have gay sex every day for the next year in an attempt to create something artistic. He's from Berlin but was born in Russia. This, however, is the most interesting/confusing part. He's planning to find this daily gay sex in supermarkets and highways in order to turn these destinations into places of "human connection." Like that hasn't been done before.

By using hook-up apps and sites like GayRomeo, Gaydar, Scruff and Grindr, he claims he wishes to turn ‘non-spaces’ such as supermarkets and motorways into places of human connection by having sex in them.

Frankly, I don't want to sound glib here, but this isn't something new. Maybe it's new to HIM, but I had several friends who once spent an entire year riding up and down the east coast along the 95 corridor having sex in public places like rest stops and supermarkets just for fun, and this was long before there were even apps like Grindr. They did it for fun, in a discreet way, not to publicize it and call it art.

An HIV association is supplying this guy with condoms.

You can read more here, where there's a photo of him and some of the most entertaining comments I've seen in a long time.

Side note: discreet, subtle cruising this way is nothing new. If you want to call it art, fine. But don't make it sound as if this hasn't been done before by millions of gay men, with discretion. In fact, there was a time when this sort of hooking up was the ONLY way to meet other gay men...unfortunately. I know more than a few gay men who've hooked up in K-Mart, or supermarkets, or at malls, and they didn't think they were turning them into a places of human connection. They just thought they were getting some.

Gay Organ Donors

This just blew me away when I read it yesterday. Mainly because I've always believed in organ donation and I've always been an organ donor and I never knew this. But it turns out that a gay teen who died and donated his eye was rejected because he was openly gay.

A Food and Drug Administration policy, which prohibits men who have sex with men from donating tissue, barred Betts from fulfilling one of his final wishes.

They did, however, accept his other organs. Evidently, this has something to do with whether or not a gay man has had sex within the last five years. It's a dated law that goes back to the early days of AIDS. The boy's mother couldn't say whether or not the teen had had sex in the last five years, so I guess they took a chance on his other organs? I'm not really sure, but I did do a search on the general topic and found this piece.

CDC guidelines say "men who have had sex with another man in the preceding 5 years" should be excluded from donation of organs or tissues unless "the risk to the recipient of not performing the transplant is deemed to be greater than the risk of HIV transmission and disease."

The organ donation policy is like the one for blood donation. The FDA policy, banning man who have had sex with men from being donors, was put in place during the AIDS epidemic of the 1980s. But there's growing opposition, including from the American Medical Association.

There's more about that here. According to one comment, all organs now are tested and screened from everyone and the policy is dated and discriminatory.

The reason why they wouldn't take the gay teen's eye isn't totally clear, but has something to do with not taking certain tissue donations. This article put it this way:

Because Moore could not confirm whether her son had been sexually active or not, the donor network had to assume he had been sexually active in the last five years, thereby ineligible to donate tissue or his eyes.

The exclusion is not limited to certain tissue donations. Gay men are also banned for life from donating blood. It's a regulation that many say needs to be updated.

More here.

The bittersweet ending to all this is that someone did receive the deceased teen's heart.

Now you see why I rant when James Franco mocks us and exploits us for his own personal gain.

George Takei's Crowdfunding

For those reading this blog you most likely know that I've always been on the fence about crowdfunding. There's too much room for fraud and I'm not too fond of the honor system.

In this case, it seems legitimate, though. A boy scout who is over 18 is trying to put together a series that talks about the boy scouts in a positive way (I think) and he's raised $100,000 thanks to a little help from George Takei. George Takei was moved by this because of boy scout anti-gay laws and the fact that this teen who is over 18 is not allowed to be a boy scout anymore.

Simon is making a web series called Camp Abercorn which confronts the BSA's discriminatory policies by telling authentic stories about scout camping.

He successfully raised the $100,000 needed to produce the series by crowdfunding via IndieGoGo and got a big boost in the final days of the effort from Star Trek icon George Takei.

The concept of this series is wonderful. And maybe this is a wonderful way to use crowdfunding. I just hope we don't see this kid putting a down payment on a new house as well.

There's more about George Takei here.

Gay Dad on Robin Williams

Here's a link to a heartwarming tribute about Robin Williams that was written by a gay dad. So many of us have been gutted by the news of Williams' death we've been searching for ways to process it. I think this is an excellent example, and one of the best tributes I've read so far.

My first recollection of Robin Williams as a dad was in The World According to Garp. It was in this first venture in which he depicted the true complexity of modern fatherhood. Garp was a dedicated dad, but he was tragically imperfect. He had failure, guilt and resurrection. His story was strange and atypical, yet the spirit of what many good men, and good fathers felt was true.

Even monumental roles where Williams did not literally play a father still spoke unflinchingly to the behavior of fathering. From Aladdin to Good Will Hunting, Williams embodied the influential fathering figure inspiring a young man to be himself. In Dead Poets Society, he inspired boys whose actual fathers had emotionally abandoned them. William’s character taught them to not only ‘seize the day’ but to look at life from different angles.

You can take the time to read more here. You won't regret it.

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