Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Tom of Finland and Gay Culture; Carly Fiorina On Gay Marriage; Ian McKellen Chokes Up

Gay Culture and Tom of Finland

If you haven't heard about Tom of Finland, you should look him up. This is a huge part of gay culture and it even crossed into pop culture. This erotic male art is so distinctive and so compelling it inspired several generations in many ways. In fact, I recall the first time I ever saw one of the images. I still can't get that mental picture out of my head. That's the kind of impact it has. I also believe, in many ways, it defines gay men and gay culture to a certain extent. And we need to be proud of this and we should own it.

Laaksonen feels pressured to get married to a woman and can only indulge in secret affairs with other men but finds refuge and liberation in his artistic expression which eventually develops a worldwide following and helps set the cultural tone for gay men in the age of gay liberation.
‘This is the story of a man ahead of his time, bravely standing up against a world virulently against his right to be who he was – a homosexual man with homosexual fantasies,’ Karukoski said in a statement to Deadline Hollywood.
‘The story shows how literally one person can create change in the world, even with something as simple as an artist’s tools.’
The screenplay has been written by Aleksi Bardy who is producing the film along with Miia Haavisto and Annika Sucksdorff of Helsinki Film.

And now there's a film being made. You can check that out here. And here's a link to wiki about Tom of Finland. I once had a contest and one of my readers won a collection of Tom of Finland books. You can read about that here.

Carly Fiorina On Gay Marriage

It really doesn't matter much now because Carly Fiorina just dropped out of the Presidential race, however, I saw an article about Fiorina  "opposing" gay marriage I thought was interesting. I hope the information is accurate and they didn't put another gay press spin on it.

Fiorina has been consistently against same-sex marriage, according to a summary of her positions on the website On The Issues.
She voted for California’s Proposition 8 in 2008 which banned same-sex marriage in the state before it was overturned by the courts. Fiorina also supported a federal amendment to prevent same-sex marriage.
‘I do believe that marriage is between a man and a woman, but also have been consistent and clear that I support civil unions for gay and lesbian couples,’ she once said.

I haven't followed Fiorina very closely in this election so I can't comment. You can read more here.  And here's another article about Fiorina and gay marriage.

Ian McKellen Chokes Up

This time he's choking up while reading a coming out letter that's from Amistad Maupin's Tales of the City

Here's part of the letter.

The letter, from Armistead Maupin’s novel Tales of the City, is written by protagonist Michael Toliver, a gay man who discovers his parents have joined an anti-gay campaign.
‘I’m sorry, Mama. Not for what I am, but for how you must feel at this moment,’ it reads.
‘I know what that feeling is, for I felt it for most of my life. Revulsion, shame, disbelief — rejection through fear of something I knew, even as a child, was as basic to my nature as the color of my eyes.’

I have to admit that I don't know much about Tales of the City but I've always wanted to know more. I also find that the older I get the more interested I am in gay culture and what it was like "back then." We've come a long way, and just like Black History, Gay History has a place now, too.

You can read the full letter here. 

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Steve Grand On Objectification; Shawn Balentine Hollywood Gay Stuntman; Downton's Gay Mr. Barrow Let Down

Steve Grand On Objectification

I wasn't sure how to title this part of the post. But since objectification seems to be the gist, that's where I went. And I do think it's become a worthy topic because I see more people than ever before objectifying men.

Openly gay performing artist, Steve Grand, made this video in what looks like his attempt to clear things up.

You can check the video link here.

There's not much more to say. Grand pretty much summed it up fairly well.

Shawn Balentine Hollywood Gay Stuntman

A stuntman in Hollywood, Shawn Balentine, just came out as gay and I guess this is a novelty of sorts. I'm not being glib about that. I would NEVER do that with anyone coming out. It's just that we wonder about actors, but never seem to think about all of the people who make up the entertainment industry.


There are so many layers that make a man, and even though I wear my heart on my sleeve, I rarely allow even my closest friends or family to see all of me. I’ve always just wanted to be Shawn the happy-go-lucky guy who never showed the vulnerability underneath. And I’ve always wanted my nieceRachel and nephews to be so damn proud to call me Uncle Shawn along with my sisters and Pops and Mom.

That's just part of what he said. It's a long statement you can find here.  

Downton's Gay Mr. Barrow Let Down

I hate to rant about this because I like Downton Abbey, however, I think a good deal of the appeal Downton Abbey has had with gay men comes from the gay storyline of the character, John Barrow. I'm not sure I would have started watching if Barrow hadn't had a gay storyline. I'm not saying that to take away from any other storylines in the show. I'm saying that because we...gays...have such limited content like this on TV we seem to gravitate toward whatever bone they decide to throw us. 

And so far, that proverbial bone has been limited even on Downton Abbey.  

Meanwhile, he blackmails the handsome young Duke of Crowborough, who he’d hooked up with at Downton one summer, to be hired as the Duke’s valet. But the aristocrat steals back incriminating letters Thomas was holding and destroys them, and Grantham hires weeping Anna’s future husband Bates anyway because there’s just something about Barrow.

The gay content has been limited and Barrow comes off looking as if he never has sex with anyone, ever. I wait every week for something to happen, and nothing happens, not even a hint. And maybe Barrow doesn't have any sexual encounters. However, I find that hard to believe. There's no way anyone is going to try to convince me that a single man as good looking as Barrow who is attracted to other men isn't getting something, somewhere, on the side. I don't care if it's in Lady Mary's closet or under a bridge a few miles from Downton. And, unfortunately, that's just another way they twist and turn our culture around. It's also the best way of gaybaiting to get gay viewers. If I had been writing that show I wouldn't have included any highly explicit gay sex scenes. I might not even have included two men kissing. However, I would have let viewers know with subtle clues that Barrow finds discreet encounters just like millions of other gay men have been finding them since the dawn of time.

I'll grant you Downton takes place long before the word gay even became used in reference to men who are attracted to the same sex. I'll grant you there's not much history because no one spoke about this topic openly until the latter part of the 20th century. But there's no way you're going to get me to believe Mr. Barrow didn't get a little on the side from time to time. It just doesn't make sense. And the fact that they never even suggest this in the Downton storyline bothers me, because contrary to what the hetero world might want to believe, men were having sex with men long before Downton Abbey's time period. And I would bet they were having a lot of it. 

In any event, you can read the rest here. I'm curious to see what happens to Barrow as the final season winds down to a conclusion. I would assume it's not going to be HEA. And that's a shame, too, because a lot of gay men in the 20th fell in love with other gay men and they spent their lives together. Good lives. The hetero world just didn't hear about them. And I think it's time someone told them. 

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Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Philly Gay Basher Sentenced; Tom Hardy Gets Naked Again; Gay Son Embarrasses Mom At Church

Philly Gay Basher Sentenced

I've been following this case since September, 2014. I haven't posted anything until now because I was waiting for a sentencing.

A Philadelphia Common Pleas judge has sentenced Kathryn Knott, 25, to 5-10 months in jail for her involvement in an attack on a gay couple in September, 2014.

In December of last year, Knott was found guilty of simple assault, conspiracy and reckless endangerment.

She was found not guilty of more serious aggravated assault charges and not guilty of charges against the other victim, explaining her seemingly light sentence.

You can read the rest here. There's also a history of the case.

This reminds me of a time when I was in Philadelphia with five or six friends. We'd just come from a political fundraiser and we were headed to dinner at a restaurant about ten blocks away. I wanted to take a cab. The others wanted to walk. It was a nice spring night. We got about two blocks away when a group of young thugs started bullying and calling gay slurs out to one of the more effeminate members of our group. They were targeting him, in particular. I was walking behind everyone, next to a friend who was in his 70's at the time. I looked at my friend and said, "Taxi?" He nodded yes, I hailed a cab, and the rest of our friends took their chances walking. It was money well spent.

Tom Hardy Gets Naked Again

Here's a link to a piece about Tom Hardy stripping down again. I've always thought of him as one of those rare actors that really gets into a role and he doesn't care what it takes to get it right.

Hardy goes all the way in for his roles, and stripped all the way down while shooting a scene for his upcoming period miniseries Taboo in London. The scene called for him to do a little skinny dipping, and some enterprising paparazzi caught Mad Max going the full Hardy. It’s certainly not the first time Tom has bared all for his art and we hope it’s not the last. You can see the latest pics here. You’re welcome.

You can read more here. And here's a direct link to the photos.  

Now THAT is a good looking man.

Gay Son Embarrasses Mom At Church

This is another one of those seeking advice pieces. Evidently, a mom is going into panic mode because her gay son embarrasses her at church.

“We are part of a church group,” Mom continues, “and I fear that if people in that group find out they will make fun of me for having a gay child.”

Poorly constructed syntax aside, there are already some major red flags here. But it gets worse.

“He won’t listen to reason, and he will not stop being gay. I feel as if he is doing this just to get back at me for forgetting his birthday for the past three years; I have a busy work schedule.”

I'm wondering what a gay guy is doing at a church like that in the first place. I also always wonder how true these Dr. Phil-ish advice columns are. I once worked as an editor for a small astrology magazine back in the 90s. And whenever the so-called psychics didn't meet deadlines, the managing editor would tell me to just pull horoscopes that had already been published from ten years earlier. And the faithful who follow astrology never knew the difference. Oh, it happens...and I didn't work there for long. 

You can read the rest here. 

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Monday, February 8, 2016

Liberals Who Support Donald Trump; Gay Bathhouse Experiences; Ending a Toxic Friendship; Strong Gay Story Line in Loving Daylight

Liberals Who Support Donald Trump

This is from a gay press. If it hadn't been I probably wouldn't have posted about it. I have to admit that I don't totally get this, so I can't really comment on it. This is not the first time I've heard about gay liberals supporting Donald Trump. And they all voted for Obama in the previous elections. I know a few, personally, and they've told me this face to face. 

As I turn 29 this year, this will be the third presidential election I vote in, and yet another in countless elections for senate, representative, and local positions. What makes this race stand out is that it will be the first time I vote for a republican.

For the longest time I steered clear of the GOP because they have become the party of the Bible and of legislating morals. The party could not stop talking about private matters they should leave alone (religion, abortion, sexuality, marriage, adoption, so on and so forth). It was rare to find a GOP member who wasn’t explicitly bought by and pandering to the evangelical vote. Even the ones who weren’t always talking about it would simply default to “I support the party” when asked. Nobody was talking about the economy, the constant chaos in the Middle East, or anything else that mattered. As a gay atheist, I grew tired of hearing from the party that opposed my existence. Every election I voted in, I voted straight democrat (with an independent exception here and there).

You can read it all here.  

The comments, surprisingly, seem varied with this one. I'm not the most political person, and I often joke about politics, however, I find the climate change in politics, in general, interesting. 

Gay Bathhouse Experiences

I've never been to a bathhouse, so I would imagine I'm just like a lot of people reading this blog post.

There are as many ways to consider the gay bathhouse as there are potential experiences to have within one.

In some places, they’re social hubs — a place to meet new friends, relax, and play safe.

The U.S. is a bit more sexually repressed, though — here you’re likely to find that dark, hypersexualized anonymous scenario.

Love ’em or hate ’em, here’s what guys on Whisper are saying about their experiences — anything you’d add?

This is followed by a series of memes, with bathhouse experience quotes, you can check out here.

Because I've never been to one I can't add anything...other than they're interesting. From what I gather, bathhouses were a huge part of gay culture before the AIDS crisis. Oh, and I don't think I've ever actually seen one called a "bathhouse." Most of the time they are referred to as gyms or something else of that nature.

Ending a Toxic Friendship

This is another humor piece by Sam Kalidi.

Each week online comedian, voice actor and chest hair model Sam Kalidi creates a comedic post for Queerty readers. This week he turns to late screen legend Bette Davis for some advice on cutting the cord on a toxic friendship. You can find him on TwitterFacebook,Instagram and at your local glory hole.

You can check out the video here.  I thought it was funny. But you have been warned. If you follow Kalidi on social media and you check your Twitter while you're waiting in line at CVS, you might wind up laughing out loud and people will stare at you.

Strong Gay Storyline in Loving Daylight

This book is not classified in the gay section because that's how these things work online. It was originally a book I was contracted to write a few years ago for a romance collection that was sold nationwide on The Home Shopping Network. It did well on HSN, however, I haven't spent much time promoting it anywhere.

This year the rights were reverted back to me and I re-released it as an indie book. I like it and I didn't want it to just disappear. It's a sexy book, but it's also PG-rated. It's considered a contemporary romance because the two main characters are hetero, however, there is a very strong gay story line in the subplot. At the time, I did that on purpose and I think most readers liked least from the feedback I've received.

You can check that out here, on Amazon and other places where e-books are sold, where I priced it at $2.99. It's a full length e-book with 60,000 words and I think there are a few copies in print going around somewhere. I also think this book might resonate with women as well as gay men because the main female character is a strong woman with a few fundamental flaws.

Saturday, February 6, 2016

Oscar Pearce Full Frontal Nudity; Model's Long, Huge Penis; Regretting That Penis Tattoo

Oscar Pearce Full Frontal Nudity

Here's a story about Oscar Pearce and male full frontal nudity I thought was post-worthy. The author of the article I'm linking to now seems to agree with the same things I've posted on the topic. Mainly, why is male full frontal nudity always so taboo.

As a heterosexual woman I say it’s about time TV bosses took the balls by the horn and realised that — shock, horror — men get naked, too.

For decades, I’ve had to endure boobs and bush being flashed on screen because it’s “an integral part of the story”.

Yet, somehow, the story never seems that important when it comes to revealing male actors’ parts.

All us ladies get to look at is a few inches of chest hair or a six-pack. Why do directors think we don’t desire to see a real penis?

You can read the rest here, with images.  I think one issue with the entire topic could be that some male actors might not want to reveal what's really going on down there, so to speak. In other words, men are often judged by penis size and if a man doesn't quite measure up it could be damaging. There would be shaming. 

Model's Suspiciously Long Penis

There's a video out with a model named Shaun Ross, and his suspiciously long penis is creating talk on the interwebz. You really have to see this one to believe it...when he comes out of the water!

Ross stars in Braves' new music video "Dust," and if you can't focus on the music, you'd be forgiven. The video captures a naked Ross emerging from the ocean, and the camera lingers on him through the money shot of his dangling dong.

And then you wonder: How could he fit into all those fancy clothes?

TMZ was on top of this one, pardon the bad pun, and you can read the rest here. 

There's a video, too.

Again, you really have to see this one.

Regretting That Penis Tattoo

A guy in Ireland (I think) is now having some serious regrets about having a penis tattooed to his leg so it appears that a penis is falling out of his shorts.

“I regret it now more for my family's sake. Since having the tattoo I can't take my daughter swimming I could end up getting arrested or something, I have upset a lot of people I love. It is the worst thing I have ever done.”

“I have to be careful if I jump out of the van wearing shorts with this tattoo showing, I have to be careful who witnesses it as I could get into a lot of trouble, possibly sacked,” he said.

You can check it out here, with photos of the tattoo. I think he had it removed.

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Friday, February 5, 2016

Donald Trump Championing Gay Rights? Flying Penis Slap Down; 99 Million Year Old Erection

Donald Trump Championing Gay Rights?

I'm sure my liberal Democrat friends are going to love this one. But you know, I think everyone's entitled to an opinion and to be curious without being bullied and shamed. And that's why I'm posting this. So calm yourselves.

Last week I posted something about whether or not Donald Trump lost votes in Iowa because of comments he made about gay marriage. No one knows for certain, however, I do know gay people who are independent voters, and I know gay people who were on the fence about voting for Trump.

The fact is that President Obama did not actively support gay marriage. He believed it was up to the states. It's already on record that Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders did NOT actively support gay marriage, however, they do support it now and that makes a difference. After Trump's recent comments about gay marriage, I think he may or may not have scared the living hell out of gay voters who are terrified of losing the right to marry. You can read my post here. It's short.

Here's an article that's recent about how Trump plans to support gay rights. He's been fairly silent on the topic and that's why I'm posting it now. I think it's news. I also took a long time finding a link that wasn't a bully piece and wasn't filled with bias and shaming.

New England Cable News, in an exclusive interview with Trump ahead of the New Hampshire primary next week, asked him a number of questions. But openly gay host Sue O’Connell took the opportunity to directly challenge him on his gay rights record.

“I’m a lesbian, and we’ve had some great progress for the gay and lesbian community through politics,” O’Connell said. “When President Trump is in office can we look for more forward motion on equality for gays and lesbians?”

“Well, you can,” Trump said. “And look, again, we’re going to bring people together, and that’s your thing and other people have their thing. We have to bring all people together and if we don’t we’re not going to have a country anymore. It’s going to be a total mess. It’s a mess right now, it’s going to be worse. So, it’s a very important choice, this presidential year is a very important year…and I’m going to bring people together.”

You can read more and watch the actual interview here. Unfortunately, I don't think that's going to win too many gay votes. He's too ambiguous. Gay people are terrified to lose what they've worked so hard to get and we aren't going to let it go that easily. And it might show in the votes. A lot of gay people are silent, and many aren't even out of the closet. They won't vote for someone who is a threat to something as important as gay marriage.

I think the interviewer did a good job. She was brilliant. If only more lgbt people in the press were like her we might even win more support.

Flying Penis Slap Down

This one is unique. I've never seen anything like it happen before.

A woman shangeyed the jiggly sex toy at Minister Steven Joyce while he was talking on-air to reporters at Waitingi on the North Island’s toe.

He was espousing the benefits of the highly secretive Trans Pacific Partnership economic agreement currently under negotiation.

It slapped against his lips and bounced of a nearby reporter’s breasts — before falling limply at their feet.

You can read more here, with photos that I believe are SFW.

His expression is priceless.   

99 Million Year Old Erection

There's an ancient fossil daddy long-leg spider with a 99 year old erection. It's a true story.

After a months-long puberty, the male harvestman Halitherses grimaldii had finally blossomed into full manhood, sporting a penis that grew to nearly half of his body length when erect.

We know about this H. grimaldii's particular package because, as announced last Thursday in The Science of Nature, he died fully aroused, his tree-side tryst interrupted by oozing resin that entombed his body in what's now a lump of amber.

"It must have been in an amorous state to have it out like this," says Ron Clouse of the American Museum of Natural History, who wasn't involved with the study. "This poor animal."

There's more here.

I never even knew spiders had penises, let alone erections that huge.

There are photos, too, which are SFW. I think. You never know these days with the PC police.

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Gay Men In Open Relationships; Gay In Military: Double Life; Davey Wavey Responds To Hypocrisy Accusations

Gay Men In Open Relationships

Here's an interesting article about gay men who are in open relationships. In my series, The Rainbow Detective Agency, Proctor and Blair are in a somewhat open relationship themselves in the sense that they have three-ways...or more. It depends on the situation, but they always do it together, never alone. Their relationship isn't open in the sense that they are able to be with other people alone. They have to be together. For them, it works.

There are rules, very defined rules, as to what Proctor and Blair can and cannot do. I make that clear in the all of the books. I added that to the story line because I think...and I've  always known it to be true in RL...that a lot of gay men have open relationships. 

With that said, here's a study done in the UK about the topic of open relationships that actually seems to back me up this time.

When it comes to the politics of open relationships, here’s what FS learned:
  • 74 percent of men who are currently in an open relationship said opening was a mutual decision between both partners.
  • 12 percent of them said they have a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy.
  • 75 percent of them said they have rules in place with their relationship, but…
  • 21 percent admitted to breaking those rules at least once. (Tisk, tisk!)

You can read the rest here. 

The rules are very important. 

Gay In Military: Double Life

This article also backs up what I've been saying on this blog, which is there are many more gays in the closet than most would assume. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, for them personally. Coming out is a personal decision that I don't believe can ever be forced. And some people these days don't want labels. That's their choice. I just wish more would come out to show the world how diverse the gay community can be. However, I do understand why they remain in the closet.

Here's an excerpt from an interview with a closeted gay man in the military who has been living a double life...

I always new I was different. Through high school, a lot of people thought I was shy, boring or introverted and what not but in reality I just wasn’t interested in girls. I had a high school girlfriend, but that was because that’s just what you did in high school. After we graduated, we got married because that’s what everyone else was doing. Shockingly, it didn’t last! My first experience wasn’t until my early 20’s. It was a very confusing time for me, because I felt like I “shouldn’t” like guys. I dealt with a lot of different emotions and there was definitely an internal struggle that didn’t subside until I was able to come to terms and accept who and how I was. Even then though, I never wanted to be defined by my sexuality, so I never “came out.” I always wanted my reputation to be: “yeah, he is a solid dude..” Not “yeah, he is a solid dude…..for a queer/homo/gay/swish/etc” All that being said, living a double life and keeping secrets isn’t healthy, psychology or emotionally, but that’s just the price I felt and feel like I have to pay. It’s a trade off that I think is worth it. My father passed away a number of years ago, but my mother and siblings know. They have come to accept it, but I don’t rub their noses in it.

I support what he's doing, because I know what it's like. But I think that's kind of sad...the last line, "rub their noses in it." I can only guess what that means. You can only be gay to fully understand it. And how sad that we have to be treated that way, still. If you ever wonder why I get angry with gaybaiting or gay cultural appropriation here on this blog, this is one reason. You'll never fully know what it's like unless you are gay.

You can read the rest here.  

Davey Wavey Responds To Hypocrisy Accusations

Long before I found this article I saw a status update from Davey Wavey about respecting gay elders. I didn't pay much attention to it and I moved on. I stopped linking to Wavey a while ago, and really not for any particular reason. (Mabye because I don't think I'd recognize him wearing clothes.) Then, over the weekend, Tony mentioned he'd seen it, too, which he rarely ever does. Normally, he doesn't care about things like that. This time Tony was in full agreement with Wavey.

In any event,  Wavey sparked some criticism and now he's responding.

While celebrating the elders in our community — and the sacrifices that they’ve made — is something all of us can stand by, some of the responses have been negative. As someone who has created more than 800 videos over the last 8 years, folks have noted that my content has included a number of young, white, shirtless gay men.

This, they claim, undercuts my anti-ageism message with blatant hypocrisy. But what critics fail to mention is that my videos have also included, in the last year alone, 88 people who aren’t young, cis, white gay men.I’m also a business person and creating video content is my job. 

I’m supported by the ad revenue that my videos generate, and I need to strike a balance. The reality is, my videos with shirtless, young gay guys get a disproportionate amount of views because that’s what our community consumes most.

He's absolutely correct about that. You have to give people what they want and you have to entertain them with what they want. And I think his overall message about elders is pretty much spot on.

The only part of this whole thing that took me aback is that I've always thought most younger gay men do treat older gay men with respect. At least from what I've always seen as a gay man...from the time was in my early twenties, from my own personal experience. Maybe Wavey knows something I don't know from his personal experience. It's been known to happen.

You can read the rest here.

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